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i dont see what this has anything to do with being asian. I think that its relatively harmless and it has somehow activated your insecurities about the relationship. Did you have any trust issues before this to begin with? Were you scared she would be interested in other guys or that she wouldnt be satisfied with you?
My advice to you is treat her well, be confident in your personality, and be fun. A happy marriage has nothing to fear. Don't drive her away because of your fears. Instead reaffirm your love for one another. Go on a weekend vacation somewhere fun.
My wife has rekindled a relationship from a past boyfriend and also a classmate from elementary school due to facebook. So far everything seems innocent enough but she seems to spend a lot of time on the phone with the classmate from elementary school. The old boyfriend she e-mails. I've brought it up to her a few times but she just says that she's getting caught up on what's happened to them over the 30+ years. As an asian she says that it's just part of her culture. I'd like to put it out there to see what others think.
1 out of 4 marriages end in divorce due to facebook.
With that said, download a key logger and install it on your wifes computer so you can retrieve passwords and look up any info you need for evidence.
I agree that the OP should be acting now to affair-proof his marriage. It always seems to start off the way he describes. I think its time to romance your wife again, remind her how great things are between you. Don't allow her to view the past as her main source of happiness today. I really think thats a big reason why people get hung up on past flames.
Asian has nothing to do with it. Do these ex's live in the same state? It could be harmless, perhaps she's bored. Keep an eye on it, and see if any of the usual patterns of cheating start to come into play, especially in regard to her behavior.
As always when I see possible hanky panky online, there's a real simple solution. Get a keystroke moniter program on the PC, laptop in question. Very simple program. You download it from a reputable site. It's hidden. Only the downloader will know about it. Once installed you can read EVERYTHING typed on that computer from then on. Then you'll know.
My Wife is Asian and is actively involved with Facebook. She is 28. She was at one point (earlier in our relationship) talking on FB with previous boyfriends, one of whom she was once deeply involved. I told her it made me uncomfortable and she stopped immediately, and I KNOW she has not spoken with him since, or anyone for that matter that makes me feel uncomfortable.
I would also like to point out that my Wife has played the asian card as well, even with the above situation. I CAN see how being Asian matters in this type of situation. I see this from living abroad in Asia and America. Completely different when it comes to the meaning of truth, and commitment (in my opinion) But, no matter, your Wife should put your concerns ahead of all else if you ask me. My Wife did/does and it keeps us happy and worry-free. Feel free to PM me. Good luck!
If she's being transparent with her interactions then I wouldn't worry too much.
If she needs privacy when speaking on the phone with them, or is quickly switching/minimizing screens while chatting/emailing them when you walk in the room those actions would cause some suspicion.
And if her interactions with them is taking away from your marriage (i.e. she's confiding/sharing with you less, there's a reduction in your level of intimacy, she's spending considerably more time on the phone or on the computer) then that is something that definitely needs addressing.
Here we go with another "FB is destroying my relationship" thread...LOL People, people, people.. I realize that YES it's a venue where you can search for people, rekindle old friendships etc BUT at the end of the day, it's not the responsibility of a website that brings down relationships. Everyone has a conscience and everyone has that little voice that says "Hey, you're about to do something very wrong..." it's a persons choice to listen to that voice and do the right thing or go off and do what they want.
I'm so tired of hearing how this website is breaking up relationships. LOL PEOPLE ruin relationships by making stupid decisions. Believe me, if someone is going to cheat if not by way of rekindling an old friendship on FB they'd sure find another way.
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