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who have glaring faults do not internalize them and simply get into relationship after relationship whereas people like me just come out and say "a relationship or marriage will never work because I have these faults A B C D E..."
i've been told it's because many people do not look at themselves like I do myself and to not glamorize such relationships because one never knows what goes on behind closed doors
who have glaring faults do not internalize them and simply get into relationship after relationship whereas people like me just come out and say "a relationship or marriage will never work because I have these faults A B C D E..."
i've been told it's because many people do not look at themselves like I do myself and to not glamorize such relationships because one never knows what goes on behind closed doors
any ideas about this?
This is so true, and I'm seeing it in some couples right now (I guess the doors aren't COMPLETELY closed).
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Originally Posted by Sunnydee
Ignorance is bliss.
Haha, that about sums it up. We can close the thread now.
So people with faults shouldnt get into relationships? Im a lil confused by the the original post. I think you can do both. Know your faults and work on them but still get into a relationship. Everyone has faults, no one is perfect, of course.
who have glaring faults do not internalize them and simply get into relationship after relationship whereas people like me just come out and say "a relationship or marriage will never work because I have these faults A B C D E..."
i've been told it's because many people do not look at themselves like I do myself and to not glamorize such relationships because one never knows what goes on behind closed doors
I think people are just used to finding scapegoats rather then confronting themselves. Scapegoating is easy and liberating yourself from blame. Confronting yourself is painful and requires change, a very difficult thing.
Because generally speaking people see everyone elses faults but have a hard time looking in the mirror and admitting that they have faults too. A few select can and do admit their faults, and those faults are either a work in progress or just "there". I definitely have faults, I'm well aware of what they are but I don't find them so horrible that I can't live with them. I can honestly look in the mirror and love the person smiling back at me in spite of my faults. I'm a happy and content person the majority of the time.
If you beleive a relationship nwon't work for you because you have all those faults, then maybe the real reason is that you don't REALLY want a relationship
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