Great Marital Metaphor (wife, marriage, love, husband)
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I attended a wedding yesterday 11/20/2010 at Our Lady of Angels Cathedral in downtown Los Angeles. It's a truly impressive building; an architectural marvel without the typical array of saintly statues. The floor inside the church is at a 5 degree incline from the altar to the last pew.
The pastor who did the wedding looked and sounded a bit like food critic Anthony Bourdain. He tried - and succeeded - to give a contemporary twist to the ceremony by often sitting amongst the guests, and welcoming people of other faiths, or practitioners of no faith such as myself.
Because the church is so enormous, all 200 guests occupied no more than both sides of the first 10 to 12 pews (i.e., it looked to be about an eigth of its seating capacity). The remainder of the pews were empty. Towards the end of the service, and before annoucing the couple as husband and wife, the pastor asked them to walk together towards the end of the aisle between the pews. We watched as the couple hand-in-hand slowly made their way past the guests, towards the end of the aisle where only empty pews were found. The couple then turned and faced the altar. To paraphrase the pastor, he said something akin to the following as he addressed the couple:
"Notice that as you left the altar together, you walked past friends and family; people who love and care for you. And while not entirely difficult, it was nevertheless an uphill climb to get from where you were to where you now are. Marriage is no different. You start your journey surrounded by friends and family. But in the end, you only have yourselves to hold on to."
I think this is nothing short of poetic, and a great marital metaphor worthy of sharing.
that was really beautiful and quite true.
i know in my own marriage we have never shared our problems, arguments or hardships with our family and freinds. even while living with my parents for 3 years of our marriage, they never knew if something was going on between us. we always have kept it between us.
we only have ourselves--as you say--to hold on to, to blame, to sympathise, to love etc.
I attended a wedding yesterday 11/20/2010 at Our Lady of Angels Cathedral in downtown Los Angeles. It's a truly impressive building; an architectural marvel without the typical array of saintly statues. The floor inside the church is at a 5 degree incline from the altar to the last pew.
The pastor who did the wedding looked and sounded a bit like food critic Anthony Bourdain. He tried - and succeeded - to give a contemporary twist to the ceremony by often sitting amongst the guests, and welcoming people of other faiths, or practitioners of no faith such as myself.
Because the church is so enormous, all 200 guests occupied no more than both sides of the first 10 to 12 pews (i.e., it looked to be about an eigth of its seating capacity). The remainder of the pews were empty. Towards the end of the service, and before annoucing the couple as husband and wife, the pastor asked them to walk together towards the end of the aisle between the pews. We watched as the couple hand-in-hand slowly made their way past the guests, towards the end of the aisle where only empty pews were found. The couple then turned and faced the altar. To paraphrase the pastor, he said something akin to the following as he addressed the couple:
"Notice that as you left the altar together, you walked past friends and family; people who love and care for you. And while not entirely difficult, it was nevertheless an uphill climb to get from where you were to where you now are. Marriage is no different. You start your journey surrounded by friends and family. But in the end, you only have yourselves to hold on to."
I think this is nothing short of poetic, and a great marital metaphor worthy of sharing.
I experienced no difficulty, and it was not an "uphill climb" to get from where I was to where I am now. I disagree with these words entirely..in fact I find the words this pastor said to be rather sssaaaddd.. Becoming married does not mean you loose any of the love and support of family and friends, and I don't understand what he means when he says " in the end"..Does he mean after the ceromony??, because for sure then I would want only ourselves to hold onto...But in the future?? where does he think all your friends and family go????
Last edited by purehuman; 11-25-2010 at 12:06 PM..
Reason: poor spelling
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