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That's a valid point but women will chase a man who puts them down or is a d*ck to them. For example, a man can make a woman want to earn his approval by putting her down. For example, a man can walk up to 3 girls at a bar and ignore the one he really is attracted to while opening up conversation with the other two.<b> And when the girl he really wants tries to join the conversation or say something, the man can easily put her down in front of her friends by saying something like "Is she always like that?" And that will generate a few light hearted laughs all the while planting a seed in the woman's head that the man is really after. She is now on a kamikaze mission to seek his approval. </b>
I'm not saying that works all the time but it works every day all across the world.
If you want a woman whose ego is validated only by a man, then good luck because you'll need it. That is an insecure dumbazz with no concept of dignity or self-respect. So you are trying to be a player because this is what players do. Just go for the insecure 'hot' chick who has no brain. You are not a 'nice guy', just jealous. This site sums it up quite nicely: http://www.heartless-*******.com/ran...uys/coin.shtml
Last edited by Donna in AZ; 01-08-2011 at 09:10 PM..
Do you believe that is a double standard?Guys are usually willing to help girl friends in that manner; simply for the sake of friendship.
To be completely honest, the truth is, I guess I wouldn't really know, about guy friends helping their female friends, to find romance. For the past 15 or so years, I have my full efforts into friendships / dating / relationships with only females; haven't really been hanging out even as pals, with many guys for years now. I had 1 bff male friend who I go back years with as a buddy, but yes, he tried as best he could, to help me in the past.
For example, for a semi-formal school dance, he let me go to the dance with his girlfriend at the time, platonically of course, so that I wouldn't have to go alone, or not go at all. I have always deeply and genuinely admired him, for that gesture of kindness and friendship.
ETA: one lesson I've learned though, the hard way, is *never*, *never* mix, friendship and love, with a girl! You'll only get heartbroken and/or lose her friendship, in the end. If you love her romantically...pursue her romantically, only. If she's just a friend to you, *only* be a friend to her. Don't mix both though...a losing combination, any way you cut it.
That's a valid point but women will chase a man who puts them down or is a d*ck to them. For example, a man can make a woman want to earn his approval by putting her down. For example, a man can walk up to 3 girls at a bar and ignore the one he really is attracted to while opening up conversation with the other two. And when the girl he really wants tries to join the conversation or say something, the man can easily put her down in front of her friends by saying something like "Is she always like that?" And that will generate a few light hearted laughs all the while planting a seed in the woman's head that the man is really after. She is now on a kamikaze mission to seek his approval.
I'm not saying that works all the time but it works every day all across the world.
Unfortunately, I think there must be something about you that makes you difficult to match with someone else. You seem to have pretty high standards and have difficulty meeting women who interest you. Your friends may be sympathetic but not know anyone they think you would like. It would be pointless to fix you up with someone if they felt it wouldn't go well.
I dated a guy for close to six years. We were engaged to be married. It did not work out between us but we parted as friends. A few years later I fixed him up with a girl I worked with because they both surfed and loved to travel. They dated for four years.
I think all you can assume is that, for whatever reason, your female friends don’t know anyone who they feel would be a good fit for you.
You may be being overly judgmental by blaming the person instead of the situation; since, it could have just as easily have been a situation with a less altruistic girl friend.
It is not exaggerated, just misunderstood. My female "just friends" have an innate urge to hook me up I always decline which oddly only adds fuel to the fire. That being said, I would never outright ask them if they knew anyone that I could hook up with.
You seem to be implying that you can't be "upfront" with a (girl) friend; is that what friendship is about?
Quote:
A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him, I may think aloud.
* Ralph Waldo Emerson, in "Friendship" in Essays, First series (1841)
ETA: one lesson I've learned though, the hard way, is *never*, *never* mix, friendship and love, with a girl! You'll only get heartbroken and/or lose her friendship, in the end. If you love her romantically...pursue her romantically, only. If she's just a friend to you, *only* be a friend to her. Don't mix both though...a losing combination, any way you cut it.
You may not be differentiating between sex and love. Are you being ambiguous on purpose?
Are nice girls being themselves only when a nice guy leaves the room; or is it only bad girls that are more upfront about it and then waiting for a nice guy to leave the room?
Nice guys usually want women to confide in their sincerity, that is why they practice being sincere.
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I always decline which oddly only adds fuel to the fire. That being said, I would never outright ask them if they knew anyone that I could hook up with. 
