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I dont know if im venting or what, but i got a txt from my wife saying she was going away and would see me in a wk or so...come to find out she has checked herself into the er for her mental issues. I have posted about this in the past. I have posted about her issues before. I guess today going to work she decided it was best to check herself in. I will give you an example of what started it...last night while lying in bed she thought i put the covers over her face on purpose so she smacked me in the back...i got upset and went in the next room, she through one of her fits screaming, banging on the wall, and i heard her mumble she hated me and that i ruined her life...and it kinda went from there. None the less I am feeling overwhelmed, all i want to do is be the perfect husband for her, and it is never good enough. Being a Christian I dont believe in divorce, but I am just feeling down. When things are good, things are good, but it can be an every other day ordeal. What really hurts is that when she called me to let me know she insinuated things were my fault. It always seems to be my fault no matter what. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Mental illness is not easy to deal with in a loved one. Your wife must realize the situation to have checked herself into a hospital over it. Do not blame yourself for something you have no control over. A lot of people are unable to live with their spouses but do not divorce. My Father did not divorce my Mother (25 years apart before he passed away) and my older brother has not divorced his wife though they have lived in separate houses for the last 10 years. Neither women had medically diagnosed mental issues, it just was impossible to live together. Being Christians they did not get divorced. Indeed they still did many things together with each other and their kids.
Being from a Christian upbringing I am not sure this is the wisest route in life to take but it is a possible one. Not sure if that helps any but i thought I would toss it out there.
First thing I want to say is it's not your fault. It's probably no one's fault, she has a mental issue and fortunately she's finally having it checked out. I'm sure you're pretty stressed because dealing with this is hard on everyone in the family. One of my good friends has a daughter who is bi polar and it's a nightmare. Sometimes after speaking, I'm stressed out so dealing with it first hand is rough. I know. But hopefully all will be better after she's treated, there's no magic pill for these types of conditions but hopefully you guys will be on the road to a better place. It may not hurt for you to seek theraphy as well. After all, you've been through a lot too.
Celtic - you must care for yourself and be healthy to even begin to consider what's best for your wife. If you continue to stay with her and she does not improve you too will begin to deteriorate to someone you dont recognize and I am certain you will not like. I completely understand biblical obligations, but get help for yourself - keep an open mind to possible solutions - and take care of yourself. It breaks my heart to think of you in both the situation the other night and now.
good luck. Keep strong, and take care of your self so you can take care of her. Hopefully she can get the help she needs. Its good she recognizes she has a problem
I dont know if im venting or what, but i got a txt from my wife saying she was going away and would see me in a wk or so...come to find out she has checked herself into the er for her mental issues. I have posted about this in the past. I have posted about her issues before. I guess today going to work she decided it was best to check herself in. I will give you an example of what started it...last night while lying in bed she thought i put the covers over her face on purpose so she smacked me in the back...i got upset and went in the next room, she through one of her fits screaming, banging on the wall, and i heard her mumble she hated me and that i ruined her life...and it kinda went from there. None the less I am feeling overwhelmed, all i want to do is be the perfect husband for her, and it is never good enough. Being a Christian I dont believe in divorce, but I am just feeling down. When things are good, things are good, but it can be an every other day ordeal. What really hurts is that when she called me to let me know she insinuated things were my fault. It always seems to be my fault no matter what. Thank you for taking the time to read this.
i goof off on here a lot but i will seriously pray for you and her. that's the best i can do. i've been through similar stuff and i had to get out(divorce) for my daughter's sake. i'm re-married and incredibly happy. there ARE legit reasons for divorce.
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