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I don't post very often in the Relationships section, but with my birthday coming up in a couple weeks, I do tend to wonder sometimes if its meant for me to be completely alone.
For the most part, I am quite shy and just don't do very well when it comes to meeting women. I've only had about 2-3 relationships in the last 10 years, but other than that, I have always remained single. Sometimes I have had friends ask me if I was dating and such, and each time I have responded to them that I pretty much put it on the back burner. There are many other things that I can do when it comes to tech stuff, computing and AV stuff but when it comes to the dating end of things, I simply fall short quite badly in that department. And its often quite difficult to find someone with somewhat similar interests when you don't go out very much which I don't.
So I guess I would be considered a homebody. Not sure if its a good or bad thing but, I often sometimes wonder if I will be single the rest of my days too. To me I feel that love or relationships are reserved for the few, the lucky and certain people. I am almost to my mid-30's and many people will say that 'aww you're just a pup' but c'mon.....they don't realize how fast time goes when you get older.
I am not sure if I will ever have the chance of a meaningful relationship....I just figure if its meant to be that would be great; if not, then I would be prepared to accept that too. It really sucks being alone sometimes but I know it can take a ton of work to be with someone. So who knows.
Oh yes my friend I get that all the time as well and I am in my upper 30's never been in love either. I totally can understand how you feel on this one. I think people say that cause they feel bad, they don't know what to say and most of the time they are with someone. So yeah, I know exactly how you feel.
If you decide not to do the things necessary to attract a mate and would rather be alone than do the work, that is a choice.
In the vast majority of cases people who are alone or without a partner have chosen this as a way of life, whether they want to see that or not.
LM, one of the best things I ever picked up in college was a professor who taught a Business Class. It was that most people think that when it comes to decisions there are 2 answers - Yes or No.
He taught there are actually 3 options people have and the most used one is to do nothing or no response at all. It really is an option.
I believe that's in line with what you are saying.
LM, one of the best things I ever picked up in college was a professor who taught a Business Class. It was that most people think that when it comes to decisions there are 2 answers - Yes or No.
He taught there are actually 3 options people have and the most used one is to do nothing or no response at all. It really is an option.
I believe that's in line with what you are saying.
Thank you Rakin Some people on this thread would be much better off in life if they learned this lesson (that not doing something is also a choice they are making) which is why I brought it up. Some here would rather not know the truth though.
S4, I keep offering to be your token All American tall white guy you can introduce to all the lousy nosy relatives at family events (and take care of your pool) but nooooooo.
Lol...I already have a pool boy. And my relatives know everything.
why do so many just give up? I must confess I don't get it
Fear of rejection no doubt plays a large part. I have to constantly remind myself it's a numbers game. I'm only looking for one person. So the more people I meet the greater my chances are to find that one person. It's not fun though. (Well sometimes it is) I think men have so many more choices than we women.
I don't post very often in the Relationships section, but with my birthday coming up in a couple weeks, I do tend to wonder sometimes if its meant for me to be completely alone.
For the most part, I am quite shy and just don't do very well when it comes to meeting women. I've only had about 2-3 relationships in the last 10 years, but other than that, I have always remained single. Sometimes I have had friends ask me if I was dating and such, and each time I have responded to them that I pretty much put it on the back burner. There are many other things that I can do when it comes to tech stuff, computing and AV stuff but when it comes to the dating end of things, I simply fall short quite badly in that department. And its often quite difficult to find someone with somewhat similar interests when you don't go out very much which I don't.
So I guess I would be considered a homebody. Not sure if its a good or bad thing but, I often sometimes wonder if I will be single the rest of my days too. To me I feel that love or relationships are reserved for the few, the lucky and certain people. I am almost to my mid-30's and many people will say that 'aww you're just a pup' but c'mon.....they don't realize how fast time goes when you get older.
I am not sure if I will ever have the chance of a meaningful relationship....I just figure if its meant to be that would be great; if not, then I would be prepared to accept that too. It really sucks being alone sometimes but I know it can take a ton of work to be with someone. So who knows.
Have you considered renting some quality time with chicks for that purpose? You could even develop a form of friendship to explore that issue and ask her to help you work on your rap.
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Some people on this thread would be much better off in life if they learned this lesson (that not doing something is also a choice they are making) which is why I brought it up. Some here would rather not know the truth though.
) I think men have so many more choices than we women.
