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Originally Posted by nikkisixx
It's just a nice way to dump someone, and I'm a proponent of this technique.
Not in my case so I know you can't say that of everyone. In my case, and 35 years later, he was the only man I was ever 'in love with'. Some people really do just fall into the trap of low self-esteem. In my case, it was due to childhood sexual abuse. I was scared to death he was going to find out and think little of me for what I went through. It's silly to assume there's one answer for everything.
I actually had someone tell me they left me because they thought that if they stayed they would have ruined my life....He said i was on a good path and that he would have taken me in another direction. Is that a dignified reason to walk away from a relationship or total bs.
It's either one of two things: 1) he had really low self-esteem 2) He was totally BS'ing and wanted to break up with you without looking or feeling bad about it. My last ex said that whole "you're too good for me" line to me also. And you know what, he was right...I was and still am too good for him!
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Originally Posted by JustJulia
It's a valid reason, but it's a cop out. To me, it says, "You were too good for me, and I didn't want to try harder to live up to that." I mean, I can see breaking up with someone for altruistic reasons (your grades are slipping because he's ill and you're taking care of him), but I don't think it's usually like that.
^This! I agree. It's such a cop out. I'd rather have a guy tell me me that he broke up w/ me b/c I was being a major b***h to him. At least I would respect the guy for his honesty and courage to even tell me that.
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
Sorta reminds me of the "It's not you, it's me" thing.......
It's basically the same thing...just a variation of words.
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Originally Posted by donie1
I had a guy tell me that once and I thought the same thing as ^. He just wanted to get out of the relationship and let me down easy. Still it hurt but it hurt because I really didn't know whether it was the truth or not.
But his lose. Oh, well. You have to go on.
Agree wholeheartedly!
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Originally Posted by Whyte Byrd
Not in my case so I know you can't say that of everyone. In my case, and 35 years later, he was the only man I was ever 'in love with'. Some people really do just fall into the trap of low self-esteem. In my case, it was due to childhood sexual abuse. I was scared to death he was going to find out and think little of me for what I went through. It's silly to assume there's one answer for everything.
Whyte Bird,
I'm sorry that you had to go through that kind of abuse (or any abuse for that matter) as a child.
I agree that it's a copout. A way of not hurting someone's feelings when the feeling is not returned. Don't blame yourself though. Sometimes the feeling is not shared simply because the other person is not compatible.
I actually had someone tell me they left me because they thought that if they stayed they would have ruined my life....He said i was on a good path and that he would have taken me in another direction. Is that a dignified reason to walk away from a relationship or total bs.
I've heard that before. I think I shamed them to come clean with what they were doing behind my back that I didn't know about. I have that look like an innocent little boy and they couldn't take it anymore. Guilt is a mofo to someone who is in control of their actions yet continues to do it because they don't think they will get caught.
I've heard that before. I think I shamed them to come clean with what they were doing behind my back that I didn't know about. I have that look like an innocent little boy and they couldn't take it anymore. Guilt is a mofo to someone who is in control of their actions yet continues to do it because they don't think they will get caught.
Yeah, sometimes they are already doing someone else. Unfortunately.
It happens. It sure wasn't for lack of size or frequency. It was about "something new".
And this goes for the women too, the frequency that is. She puts out religiously and he will go out and disrespect her anyway. Cheaters just have the bad habit of doing this over and over again. Like a dog that steals things just for the heck of it. Bad dogs learn bad habits in the streets.
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It was about "something new".
