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Sorry to ask this, but apparently I am unable to tell those who want to be friends with those who want more so I figure I would just ask.
So for the past few months I have been getting lunch at the same place nearly every work day. One of the cashiers there I think may have some kind of interested in me based on mildly escalating interactions... that or she is just being friendly.
At first she would just get awkward/clumsy when dealing with me, she would say hi and give me a smile even if I was not in her line, and would would take notice on days I had to dress up. I know cashiers are suppose to be nice an social so I didn’t think anything of it.
However I noticed some more stuff when I started to make small talk with her… she laughs with a huge smile at my lame jokes.. I even once caused her to go on a rant about something which ended with her getting flustered and her apologizing for how weird she was. Then there was a few times when I would get on the closet empty line to order and she would start typing my order and call me over. I have not seen her do anything similar with other customers and even noticed that she would smile at me and not other customers.
It got more interesting the other day when I went in there and the store was empty. I ended up ordering from a different cashier but as I waited for my order she walked over to where I was and started several conversations with me. Asking where I lived, where I worked, what I did for a living, where I was going this weekend and drilled down into asking questions about my weekend plans… when one topic ended she would pause for a moment and try to start up the next. She even fist bumped me because we found out we live close to each other and take the same way home.
Is this person just social? or could she actually be interested in me?
Im am not seeking a relationship or actively dating, however based on the interaction I have with her she has a very unique personality which I find highly enjoyable, and would like to get to know her better. Though if she is not interested I do not want to create an awkward situation for her.
I would say ask her for a coffee or ask her if she can sit down for a few minutes the next time she starts a conversation with you.
If she says no then continue on about your life like it never happened. No reason for anything to be awkward.
It was great to read that...she sounds totally interested, I'd at least ask to take her for coffee. At the very least, get her Facebook--I'm sure that would make her day.
Sorry to ask this, but apparently I am unable to tell those who want to be friends with those who want more so I figure I would just ask.
So for the past few months I have been getting lunch at the same place nearly every work day. One of the cashiers there I think may have some kind of interested in me based on mildly escalating interactions... that or she is just being friendly.
At first she would just get awkward/clumsy when dealing with me, she would say hi and give me a smile even if I was not in her line, and would would take notice on days I had to dress up. I know cashiers are suppose to be nice an social so I didn’t think anything of it.
However I noticed some more stuff when I started to make small talk with her… she laughs with a huge smile at my lame jokes.. I even once caused her to go on a rant about something which ended with her getting flustered and her apologizing for how weird she was. Then there was a few times when I would get on the closet empty line to order and she would start typing my order and call me over. I have not seen her do anything similar with other customers and even noticed that she would smile at me and not other customers.
It got more interesting the other day when I went in there and the store was empty. I ended up ordering from a different cashier but as I waited for my order she walked over to where I was and started several conversations with me. Asking where I lived, where I worked, what I did for a living, where I was going this weekend and drilled down into asking questions about my weekend plans… when one topic ended she would pause for a moment and try to start up the next. She even fist bumped me because we found out we live close to each other and take the same way home.
Is this person just social? or could she actually be interested in me?
Im am not seeking a relationship or actively dating, however based on the interaction I have with her she has a very unique personality which I find highly enjoyable, and would like to get to know her better. Though if she is not interested I do not want to create an awkward situation for her.
Have you ever been tested for autism? I hear that one of the first signs is not being able to pick up on social cues.
His problem isn't that he's not picking up on the cues. He's picking up, all right. It's that he's not sure is it all means what he thinks it means, and whether he should do something about it.
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