Polygamy (dating, Christian, wives, marriage)

[Torrey]

Do you believe in Polygamy? Yes, or No, and why........

I believe in Polygamy, but do not practice it because my wife does not agree with it. My reasons are that if a man has more than one wife, he has some variety and does not feel the urge to seek other women outside of his marriage. As well, the normal duties of a wife are shared, giving less of a burden on one wife. The income level of the household is increased significantly if for instance the Husband works, and he has two Wives working.

Of course there are women who say "Well what about ONE WOMAN with multiple husbands?"

To that I point to NATURE. Do you see a pride of lions with more than one Male? A pride of lions has several females and one dominant male who is over the pride. When juvenile males born into the pride are old enough, they are driven off by the dominant male. There are no species on earth in this reverse order of nature. Men dominate, they are the leaders, the protectors. It is nature.

This is just one example. Men and Women both are still instinctual, flesh and blood creatures. We still can see 'alpha males' and 'submissive females' in our everyday lives.

If Polygamy were legalized, which in my opinion it should be, then it might become more popular, and for those who do practice it already, those people will live much better lives by not having to live in fear.

To those who would bring some of the immoral practices sometimes seen amongst some polygamists into this thread, please don't because this thread is about consenting ADULTS, not 14 year old girls forced into marrying 40 year old men with 7 wives already.

For those who may wonder, NO I am not a Mormon, and nor am I a Muslim. I am a Wiccan if you wish to know. A peaceful, earth based religion dating from pre-christian times.

[yellowsnow]

Polyandry sounds better to me, but I'm not a lion either. And I can't afford to support multiple men anyway. Nature has other lessons to teach us. What about the female spider who allows a male to mate and then kills him?

This doesn't sound like a great deal to me. Let's see....I get 1/2(or less) of a man, 1/2 of the housework(I'm assuming H does nothing), and I get to work full time. To support H and however many wives he desires. The whole lion thing scares me economically. Those male lions don't hunt unless they are starving. Usually they just lay around waiting for the females to tend to their needs.

There's a REASON why those poor little girls are forced to marry at the age of 12. It's much easier to brainwash the young and uneducated. I'm not thinking there would be many women queueing up to get a piece of this action!

[Houstonkid]

Hey it works for Hef why not me!

Seriously, this coming from a guy, why would any woman with an inkling of self-respect be interested in this?

[mollysmiles]

I don't believe in polygamy. I can see how some may view this as a "hey, this sounds great" sort of thing, but I would not want to be in that type of relationship. As I stated in another post, sometimes I just don't share well with others!

[Cattknap]

"My reasons are that if a man has more than one wife, he has some variety and does not feel the urge to seek other women outside of his marriage."

Why not just stay single - by definition marriage means that you are faithful and true to your husband or wife, so "seeking other women (or men) outside marriage" is simply not an option.

If you want a variety of sexual partners, then marriage isn't for you....did you ever think that women might want a little variety as well? Just bet you wouldn't condone that.

You can either be a mature adult and reserve your passions and desires for your one wife or you can be a big dog in a park - you choose. In my book self control and being faithful are two aspects of being a real man or woman.

[ellie]

From the little bit I understand about it, most women in those relationships are not terribly happy about sharing. They're just afraid God or their husband will backhand them if they don't cooperate. I'm with Cattknap, just forgo marriage if you want to play that game.

[Twinkle Toes]

Yeah, I'm not too keen on this whole polygamy thing either. I guess I'm more like a lion than a lioness though because if and when I am single I like to have a lot of guys.

[FindingZen]

At this point, I don't support legalizing plural marriage for the same reasons some people use to condemn the idea of gay marriage (which, ironically, I do support.

1. Finding multiple people attractive may be natural but one has a choice about whether to follow up on that attraction.

2. I am not certain if it is a healthy environment for children to grow up in.

3. Unlike those who refer to the Bible to back up their disavowment of gay relationships, I don't agree with the interpretation of Christianity that validates polygamy.

I find the lion analogy interesting because, at least in the fundamentalist LDS sects, the "weaker pride" i.e. the teenage males are essentially kicked out of the clan before they become a threat to claim wives away from the adult males. (And yes, I realize that this group is different from the more mainstream Mormons whom I respect.) On another note, there are cultures (not necessarily Westernized) in which the women are the ones that "hunt" while the men take care of home.

I probably need to do more research before making a final decision... but at this point, I would support the ideal of legalizing civil unions for plural relationships but not marriage. The individuals involved can work out legal arrangements for themselves; no need to complicate the government with all of that.

[Cattknap]

Tone - "fundamentalist LDS sects" - there is nothing LDS about them - any member caught practicing polygamy is excommunicated...so they are no longer LDS - they may be former LDS members, but I really don't like seeing polygamists being referred to as LDS - gives an incorrect impression...to me they are simply polygamists, period.

[I LOVE NORTH CAROLINA]

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