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I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
They were flirting and got caught. I would be extremely pissed off if I saw messages like that. I don't think you overreacted. You put your foot down as a warning.
I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
What are you doing that's causing him to seek the emotional attention outside?
I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
Over words?..Sounds like an affair to me..but its your choice to stay with a man who would obviously cheat on you.
I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
you arent over-reacting, there is something strange there. You mention that you havent had an argument in 6 years? Maybe he is just bored and looking for some excitement, who knows
I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
Start by accepting that YOU thought your marriage was perfect, HE obviously didn't.
He was playing on a very slippery slope and you yanked him back up to flatter ground before it was too late.
That's a good thing because there is still time to save your marriage.
Instead of drawing lines in the sand about "what was said" (I'm sorry, that's just strange to me that you'd phrase it that way as what he was doing in general was already inappropriate so you have to assume inappropriate things were said), make an appt with a marriage counselor and get yourselves there asap.
[quote=Antlered Chamataka;18723193]What are you doing that's causing him to seek the emotional attention outside? [/quoteMaybe it's nothing she's doing at all...maybe it's him going through some kinda mid life crisis.
I think your reaction was right, but I fear the contact with the ex is a symptom of trouble. It doesn't matter what they said, it matters that he was in communication with her on the sly.
What does he say about it? Is he willing to fix whatever his problem is?
I will start off by saying, up until 2 months ago, my husband and I never had an argument, our marriage was perfect (6 years),
2 months ago he sent an ex an e-mail asking that she call him (he claims that they are good friends) I asked him how many times have they talked, he said a "few times" I looked on the phone bill and discovered there were over 100 messages and 2 hrs of talk time over a period of a week. I looked on his phone and seen some of the text messages (but not all because he erased some) one message said "how did you sleep last night?" "You are very special to me" "i was disappointed not to see a picture of you" She had asked him "I hope i didn't offend you" I asked him if anything inappropriate was said, he said no. after i sent her an email telling her was not appropriate to be talking so much, she told me something was said and she stopped herself immediately. they no longer text, talk or e-mail.
I have told him that if anything was said, he needs to tell me now, because if i find out later something bad was said, that will be the end of our marriage.
am I over-reacting? do you think its ridiculous to throw away a marriage over words?
Dump him, and find a new husband, problem solved
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