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I was reading this article on whether to tell or not when one cheats... many psychologists were chiming in... some said yes, and other's NEVER. One in particular said that if it's a one time thing and you feel it's not a relationship of sorts, AND there is a good chance your partner wouldn't find out, that admitting it is actually the wrong thing to do as it only hurts and destroys that person.
Just wondering what your opinion is... and this is for men and women.
If you had a one time fling, would you admit to your partner what happened or just live with it for the rest of the relationship?
Also looking for anyone that might admit to going through that scenario, if you cheated, did you tell your partner or not? How did you deal with the guilt?
I agree with the psychologists, as it tracks with most of the information I've seen published about this specific situation. It is usually far more destructive to tell than than to keep quiet. Fortunately, I've never had to think about what I'd do, because I've never cheated.
I was reading this article on whether to tell or not when one cheats... many psychologists were chiming in... some said yes, and other's NEVER. One in particular said that if it's a one time thing and you feel it's not a relationship of sorts, AND there is a good chance your partner wouldn't find out, that admitting it is actually the wrong thing to do as it only hurts and destroys that person.
Just wondering what your opinion is... and this is for men and women.
If you had a one time fling, would you admit to your partner what happened or just live with it for the rest of the relationship?
Also looking for anyone that might admit to going through that scenario, if you cheated, did you tell your partner or not? How did you deal with the guilt?
I dont believe in cheating. Why would I do that to someone whom I claim to love. If I'm woman enough to cheat than I'm woman enough to tell my SO that I cheated. Cheating is never justified, a cheater is a loser.
If you had a one time fling, would you admit to your partner what happened or just live with it for the rest of the relationship?
If I was guaranteed to never get caught I still wouldn't cheat because I would know I cheated. It's just not okay in my book, no matter what the circumstances.
I can't answer the 2nd question because I wouldn't be in that position, but if he had a one time fling then yes, I'd like to know.
I was reading this article on whether to tell or not when one cheats... many psychologists were chiming in... some said yes, and other's NEVER. One in particular said that if it's a one time thing and you feel it's not a relationship of sorts, AND there is a good chance your partner wouldn't find out, that admitting it is actually the wrong thing to do as it only hurts and destroys that person.
Just wondering what your opinion is... and this is for men and women.
If you had a one time fling, would you admit to your partner what happened or just live with it for the rest of the relationship?
Also looking for anyone that might admit to going through that scenario, if you cheated, did you tell your partner or not? How did you deal with the guilt?
I would have no desire to cheat with anyone for any reason. I love my husband totally, unconditionally, endlessly. I would be repulsed to even consider being with anyone else, ever.
I would never ever cheat. Cheating has ruined most relationships I've seen (including one I was part of) and I've seen the devastation over and over again. It's the lowest thing one person can do to another aside from physical abuse in my opinion. My own trust is the greatest gift I could give to someone and I don't trust many people because of all of the cheating I've seen.
Hypothetically if I did cheat, I would absolutely 'fess up. Telling the other person is not what's destructive, cheating in and of itself is what's destructive. If I caused it I would accept responsibility for my own actions and do the right thing, but that would in no way make up for the fact that I betrayed and disrespected the one person in the world who trusts me the most. I find cheating despicable, but I'm not terribly surprised that it happens so often. Cheaters don't deserve the relationship they're hiding their actions from. Just my opinion.
I would have no desire to cheat with anyone for any reason. I love my husband totally, unconditionally, endlessly. I would be repulsed to even consider being with anyone else, ever.
I never got caught and I never felt guilt. I think I would have felt guilty if I got caught and thus caused my partner pain, or if I had an affair with an emotional element and it felt like my loyalties were divided. But as my affairs were all purely physical and I neer got caught, I never felt guilty about it.
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