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Having to play juvenile games is not my idea of romance.
This thread makes me sad because I get NONE of the nice gestures that everyone mentioned. In fact, he refuses to help in the evenings and says "I work all day." Then he waits until I finally have the kids in bed and plop down, exhausted and drained, and says "I didn't get married to not have sex!" "I have needs" blah blah blah
Sorry, but I don't want to jump in bed with someone who has forced me to emotionally distance myself from them. I feel like I should just charge $50 or something!
Sorry to hear that. Sex should never be used as a weapon or payback.
I don't know your whole background story, but unless you deal with this situation head-on now with your husband, it will be harder to overcome the bitterness and resentment down the road.
We are well into "danger territory". I've posted some other pretty rough stuff on CD and everyone told me I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship.
So yeah, that pretty much kills any hope of romance!
Our next step is counseling. In hindsight, I would not have married this person. He changed radically and there's no way to predict that.
Sometimes I feel like when you get to the "going to counseling" stage, you should just save your money and put it towards legal advice!
Oh well, I'm ready to either fix this or give up because this is no way to live life. It's nice to see that there are some men out there somewhere who have a clue! (even if they are random people on the internet)
If men would just grow up and realize that women are juggling a LOT of things and it it's a heavy load. Playing games of "my day is rougher" and "woe is me..." is toxic. If the wife starts to see the husband as just another kid to be cleaned up after, that is the kiss of death.
We are well into "danger territory". I've posted some other pretty rough stuff on CD and everyone told me I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship.
So yeah, that pretty much kills any hope of romance!
Our next step is counseling. In hindsight, I would not have married this person. He changed radically and there's no way to predict that.
Sometimes I feel like when you get to the "going to counseling" stage, you should just save your money and put it towards legal advice!
Oh well, I'm ready to either fix this or give up because this is no way to live life. It's nice to see that there are some men out there somewhere who have a clue! (even if they are random people on the internet)
If men would just grow up and realize that women are juggling a LOT of things and it it's a heavy load. Playing games of "my day is rougher" and "woe is me..." is toxic. If the wife starts to see the husband as just another kid to be cleaned up after, that is the kiss of death.
Sounds like your husband needs a real education on how to please a woman. If he won't make any effort I can see why you are so turned off by him
We are well into "danger territory". I've posted some other pretty rough stuff on CD and everyone told me I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship.
So yeah, that pretty much kills any hope of romance!
Our next step is counseling. In hindsight, I would not have married this person. He changed radically and there's no way to predict that.
Sometimes I feel like when you get to the "going to counseling" stage, you should just save your money and put it towards legal advice!
Oh well, I'm ready to either fix this or give up because this is no way to live life. It's nice to see that there are some men out there somewhere who have a clue! (even if they are random people on the internet)
If men would just grow up and realize that women are juggling a LOT of things and it it's a heavy load. Playing games of "my day is rougher" and "woe is me..." is toxic. If the wife starts to see the husband as just another kid to be cleaned up after, that is the kiss of death.
How sad is it that my husband does this exact thing? Except he uses yard work or something. I would rather do it myself so I don't "owe" him. How absurd is that???
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Originally Posted by Coolhand68
Somewhere there is a woman who is complaining that her husband never comes to her and has turned into an asexual couch potato. It's interesting to see the opposite points of view and experiences from couple to couple.
Thats just a normal couples in my eyes!
I see this all day long in almost every long term comitted relationship I see. Even the people I know that swear they have it all in marriage are hypocrits in my eyes (Not all but most, and the divorce rate confirms my belief). It's even worse that they lie to themselves when they say they have it soo good, and proceed to make the same statements made above!
Whats funny is I hear the whole "LS I feel so sorry for you, you don't have someone to grow old with?". Just what I need, some old crabby mean person that lives in my house for the rest of my life!. My reply is "Have you ever seen me arguing with any body I'm seeing?". My answer is "Never" unless it is about something very minor, like whos picking up the tab, or it's at the end of the relationship.
Why would anyone invite someone else into their lives that adds "STRESS" to an otherwise unstressful life. Answer: people who are trying to fullfill societal expectations of them. Be a good wife or husband and you will be eternally happy, NOT! Time to review your contract time!
Last edited by LS Jaun; 04-27-2011 at 04:29 PM..
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