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I've been dating a lot lately, and have found that a high percentage of men have asked me to get involved with them in an friends-with-benefits relationship, often with claims that we will "see if things develop" into more. I just had this laid on me yet again, this time on the third date with a man. I hear this so often (and so bluntly) I have to conclude that there are a lot of women who are happy to be in this sort of arrangement. Fair enough, whatever floats your boat!
For those of you get involved in this sort of thing, do you think it might develop into a "real" relationship, or are you just going along for the ride? In my mind, dating and having sex with a guy like this will just be a waste of my time.
PS - I am not a prude, had more of an FB situation with a younger guy for a little more than a year. (... and I went back there a few weeks ago, it was a necessity... but I digress.) I view that as a different situation, there was no pretend dating involved.
PPS - please no he-man woman-hater remarks about how American women are 'hos.
If its mutually benefical and on good terms with no drama then why not???
Ok... but that doesn't address the question:
For those of you get involved in this sort of thing, do you think it might develop into a "real" relationship, or are you just going along for the ride?
I'm not a women but I can tell you that I have had a couple of FWB relationships in the past and they were all with women older than myself. neither of us had illusions it was going to turn into a relationship. I also hear a few of my GF's friends talk about the guys they're "seeing" and we're just friends, but the sex is good" is heard pretty often.
From a guys point of view. it seem like there is a lot of that going on these days.
Not 35 yet and have not been in a FWB situation but from observing the people I know, I don't believe these type of arrangements can progress into real relationships. If anything, they get worse.
For those of you get involved in this sort of thing, do you think it might develop into a "real" relationship, or are you just going along for the ride? In my mind, dating and having sex with a guy like this will just be a waste of my time.
If your looking for a LTR you are probably wasting your time. I have done FWB and would again but because Im not seeking a "real" relationship. Times that I have been fwb, neither party was looking for the relationship to progress. If they are telling you "we'll see if things develop", there not friends with benefits, just benefits because that is leading and they really mean if nothing else/better develops for me, you'll do, but when something does come along, Im out of here.
I've never done it because I'd be afraid that feelings would get in the way eventually. As it is, I'm kinda prudish with the whole sex thing- I'm not really THAT into sex and anyone who would want to have sex with me, they'd better hope that I'd be into them in ways more than just mere friendship.
I have a SO but when I was single and 40 I never considered FWB. It just isn't my style. I prefer men to be lovers interested in a LTR and I personally have never settled for being someone's booty call. I don't need sex that much...that's what the Jack rabbit was invented for.
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I just had this laid on me yet again, this time on the third date with a man. I hear this so often (and so bluntly) I have to conclude that there are a lot of women who are happy to be in this sort of arrangement. Fair enough, whatever floats your boat! 
