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The hate is not solely based upon his being a drunk, his emotional abuse, physical abuse, or being controlling....It is really about all 4. I really think the only thing that keeps me with him is that I am in a joint property state and I do not want him to try and take half of everything I have worked for. Of course, in a joint and community property state, the judges do not look at the fact you do all the work and the majority of the financial contributing. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and it has been nothing but a bunch of building bitterness. When he asks anything, even simple things, it makes me even more resentful, so I imagine the bitterness boat has long since sailed....
Any ideas on how to get out of my mess?
Divorce... your house... materials... bah you can replace it.
You will not get your youth back shug.
So "give" away as much stuff as you can to your parents(or someone else you trust), make the divorce, and then they can give you back the gifts. That way you won't lose as much. You won't be popular with him, but I don't see that being much of a concern here...
She need to be careful and discuss with a lawyer before doing this. If her husband gets a lawyer or if he knows how much she has now then she may be in legal trouble for trying to hide the assets.
The hate is not solely based upon his being a drunk, his emotional abuse, physical abuse, or being controlling....It is really about all 4. I really think the only thing that keeps me with him is that I am in a joint property state and I do not want him to try and take half of everything I have worked for. Of course, in a joint and community property state, the judges do not look at the fact you do all the work and the majority of the financial contributing. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and it has been nothing but a bunch of building bitterness. When he asks anything, even simple things, it makes me even more resentful, so I imagine the bitterness boat has long since sailed....
Any ideas on how to get out of my mess?
Bear in mind the longer you wait, the more stuff you will have and the more he will get. Take your losses now while the sting will still be minimal
The hate is not solely based upon his being a drunk, his emotional abuse, physical abuse, or being controlling....It is really about all 4. I really think the only thing that keeps me with him is that I am in a joint property state and I do not want him to try and take half of everything I have worked for. Of course, in a joint and community property state, the judges do not look at the fact you do all the work and the majority of the financial contributing. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and it has been nothing but a bunch of building bitterness. When he asks anything, even simple things, it makes me even more resentful, so I imagine the bitterness boat has long since sailed....
Any ideas on how to get out of my mess?
Simple. Walk away and don't look back.
Don't let money or anything else hold you IF it's as bad as you say. You can replace money, property etc. but you CAN'T replace your life or any part of it!
Either walk away or all of the blame and grief will fall at your feet for making a bad decision to stay.
Your choice. Oh yes, sitting on the fence will only get you a butt full of splinters.
How are you going to feel when you have to split 30 years worth of assets with him? It's never going to be any better than it is right now. And you should keep what was yours before you got married.
The hate is not solely based upon his being a drunk, his emotional abuse, physical abuse, or being controlling....It is really about all 4. I really think the only thing that keeps me with him is that I am in a joint property state and I do not want him to try and take half of everything I have worked for. Of course, in a joint and community property state, the judges do not look at the fact you do all the work and the majority of the financial contributing. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and it has been nothing but a bunch of building bitterness. When he asks anything, even simple things, it makes me even more resentful, so I imagine the bitterness boat has long since sailed....
Any ideas on how to get out of my mess?
Just cut your losses and go. You can always make more money, but you can't buy back the time you are wasting.
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