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Since it's frowned upon in Puritanical America for males to have fluid sexuality, is the fact that I find other males attractive something that I "have" to reveal as a part of who I am to a girl? I've never dated a guy, never had sex with a guy, never fallen in love with a guy, but know when other dudes are hot. I feel really guilty about it because I'm told, as a male, I'm either 100% straight, or gay, there is no in between so I feel guilty dating women because I feel like I'm hiding something from them.
I've started hanging out with a girl who's really into me and I really like her, but I'm programmed to feel like I'm leading a double life just because I think a ripped, shirtless dude looks good.
I think you should be honest and tell her you are bisexual. If she chooses to continue dating you then at least she can't turn around and say you were deceptive about your sexuality.
I think you should be honest and tell her you are bisexual. If she chooses to continue dating you then at least she can't turn around and say you were deceptive about your sexuality.
That's the problem. That doesn't work. I'm either 100% gay or 100% straight.
maybe find some women who are more open-minded? Where do you live?
And I assume you mean you find them attractive as in you yourself are attracted to them?
e: Djuna I think almost nobody is 100%. I consider myself straight, but I am not afraid to say that a guy has features that most would consider attractive. Doesn't mean I'd ever do anything with the guy, just calling a spade a spade.
Djuna I think almost nobody is 100%. I consider myself straight, but I am not afraid to say that a guy has features that most would consider attractive. Doesn't mean I'd ever do anything with the guy, just calling a spade a spade.
maybe find some women who are more open-minded? Where do you live?
And I assume you mean you find them attractive as in you yourself are attracted to them?
e: Djuna I think almost nobody is 100%. I consider myself straight, but I am not afraid to say that a guy has features that most would consider attractive. Doesn't mean I'd ever do anything with the guy, just calling a spade a spade.
I am most certainly 100% *not* attracted to my same gender Never have been; never will be. Ever. It's just not in the cards for me, as I don't swing that way, at all.
Since it's frowned upon in Puritanical America for males to have fluid sexuality, is the fact that I find other males attractive something that I "have" to reveal as a part of who I am to a girl? I've never dated a guy, never had sex with a guy, never fallen in love with a guy, but know when other dudes are hot. I feel really guilty about it because I'm told, as a male, I'm either 100% straight, or gay, there is no in between so I feel guilty dating women because I feel like I'm hiding something from them.
I've started hanging out with a girl who's really into me and I really like her, but I'm programmed to feel like I'm leading a double life just because I think a ripped, shirtless dude looks good.
That's the problem. That doesn't work. I'm either 100% gay or 100% straight.
Neither does bisexuality and monogamy in the same relationship. I know you didn't say you two were exclusive right now, I'm just saying. Every once in a while you're going to get an itch that, anatomically speaking, your partner can never scratch. Whatever you do, try not to tie yourself down to one person, unless he/she is down with sharing. In the end, it's just better that way.
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. I'm either 100% gay or 100% straight.
