I'm an expert at not handling this type of situation gracefully. This happened to me many many times. One was a blind date set up by my highschool best friend. I was a senior in highschool, and she couldn't talk me into going. So she talked to my MOM one day when I was at work to try to get her to talk me into it. She told my mom "He's a drummer and he's really cute" thinking that would be a selling point, since at the time I had a crush on a drummer in my class. I came home from work and imagine how mortifying it was to have my mother trying to sell me on a blind date.
My friend had a warped sense of humor. She knew the guy was not my type. He was her date's best friend, and wanted to double date. When we walked out to the car, I saw the guy behind the wheel, and said "Please say that's not him..."
It was him. He wasn't a drummer. And he WASN'T CUTE.
I got in the back seat and pulled my friend in right next to me while the two guys sat up front. My friend and I were wedged between two console speakers, like you'd find in someone's living room, and the guy drove like a maniac. Every time he'd make a turn, we'd have to push the speakers off us.
We went to see Friday the 13th part (?), and I got in the aisle first, grabbed my friend, then her date followed, so my date and I were on opposite sides of the group. He was trying to impress me with stories of his tarantula and all the Playboy posters he had on his wall (message: "Dude! I have my own place! I'm COOL!!!").
On the ride home, my friend and I took the back seat again, and my date drove back to my house, going about 40 miles over the speed limit. Once home, I got out as quickly as possible, declined the offer of my date to walk me to the door, and thought that would be the end.
Until he called. My @#%$!! "friend" thought it would be hilarious to give the guy my number! And he'd come visit me at work and at home...
It was bad. BAD I tells ya!!!! Luckily, I left for college, and never saw him again. Another blind date she sent me on ended up in prison years later for shooting his father to death in a grocery store.
I still tell my friend I owe her a REALLY bad date.
More recently, I went out on a "meet" with a guy I'd been talking to online. I don't know why I went... we had nothing in common, but he was so persistent, and he seemed nice, so I figured maybe I should give it a shot.
I could NOT get out of there fast enough. No chemistry, he was 10 years older then he said he was, and the guy was staring at me the entire time with this weird smile. He was super religious and talked about wanting me to meet his church group, and I was so uncomfortable I couldn't eat lunch. After we left the restaurant, we wandered around the area, sat on a bench making awkward conversation. For example, there was a Pottery Barn right near us, and a woman came out holding a pillow. I asked my "date" "Do you think she made a trip out here just to buy a pillow?". Aagh. We then went into Pottery Barn, and walked around silently. He followed me while I studied every candle, seashell, and picture frame I could get my hands on. I was boring as hell. I was trying to be. When I got home, I had a message waiting for me, saying we needed to "set aside some time to talk about the day". I wrote back, as nicely as I could, that I did not think that was a conversation we needed to have.
This was last summer. He still wants a second date.
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