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I just need to vent, so please excuse any nonsense, pessimism or whining in this post...
I have spent years trying to solve the puzzle of why women are never interested in me. I have improved in a lot of areas, made changes, tried new things... but in the end nothing of that ever matters. And I have to say I have run out of ideas. I'm stuck.
I tried recording a few videos of myself and after watching, I find myself ackward in some way, but I can't put my finger on what it is or how it can be improved. Maybe it's just the way I am and there's little I can do. I would like some of my closest female friends to help me on this, but I don't see any of them very often. Also they are commonly unavailable if some random day I need someone to speak to. So it seems I'm on my own to try and solve this, if I ever can.
As of now it has already been years of not having my emotional (and physical) needs met, and it's finally starting to affect other areas of my life. It was only a matter of time that it got to this point. Yeah, I have a good relation with my family and I have friends I go out with, but that can only reach so far.
As I said, I'm not expecting solutions here. Just needed to tell it. Since I have no one to speak to right now, I thought at least I'd write it...
I just need to vent, so please excuse any nonsense, pessimism or whining in this post...
I have spent years trying to solve the puzzle of why women are never interested in me. I have improved in a lot of areas, made changes, tried new things... but in the end nothing of that ever matters. And I have to say I have run out of ideas. I'm stuck.
I tried recording a few videos of myself and after watching, I find myself ackward in some way, but I can't put my finger on what it is or how it can be improved. Maybe it's just the way I am and there's little I can do. I would like some of my closest female friends to help me on this, but I don't see any of them very often. Also they are commonly unavailable if some random day I need someone to speak to. So it seems I'm on my own to try and solve this, if I ever can.
As of now it has already been years of not having my emotional (and physical) needs met, and it's finally starting to affect other areas of my life. It was only a matter of time that it got to this point. Yeah, I have a good relation with my family and I have friends I go out with, but that can only reach so far.
As I said, I'm not expecting solutions here. Just needed to tell it. Since I have no one to speak to right now, I thought at least I'd write it...
No worries, some issues really do need an outside perspective to help you find out what you should improve on next.
Though I wouldn't post any kind of videos of yourself up here because there's some pretty terrible posters on here, male and female alike, who would probably give you some dumb comments or wrong observations.
Haha I had no intention of uploading videos of myself to the internet, Prince_Frog. Also it probably wouldn't be of much use if the videos are watched by people from other countries due to language/culture differences (I'm from Spain and most people here are from the USA).
I do hear frustration of the youth, and (as much as I dread my kids going through this in near future) I'm going to say the frustration shows. People in general, and women in particular, pick up on it, and it is unattractive. There is not much I can advise, except for the very worn out one (and hated by the youth because nothing will be promised NOW and they want it NOW) - look after yourself first, become self-assured first, become self-reliant, find a thing you love to do with or without a partner.
Because attractive men don't make videos of themselves. They either don't care or don't have time for this foolishness among their pursuits. And that self-assured-ness is the most attractive quality.
I do hear frustration of the youth, and (as much as I dread my kids going through this in near future) I'm going to say the frustration shows. People in general, and women in particular, pick up on it, and it is unattractive. There is not much I can advise, except for the very worn out one (and hated by the youth because nothing will be promised NOW and they want it NOW) - look after yourself first, become self-assured first, become self-reliant, find a thing you love to do with or without a partner.
Because attractive men don't make videos of themselves. They either don't care or don't have time for this foolishness among their pursuits. And that self-assured-ness is the probably the most attractive quality.
Mikala43: No, I can't get any dates. Had 2 in the last 3 years (1 was online) and it never got to a 2nd date.
nuala: yes, I would say that nowadays it probably shows. But it wasn't always like that. Some time ago I was quite more lively and cheerful in general, but the situation with women has kept the same and it has finally affected me. Still, we have kind of a chicken and egg problem here. I have been years trying to focus on other things, and I do have some things going on in my life. But I've found that just doing that does not make me more attractive or desirable. I'm going to need some help yet it seems I am on my own here.
Mikala43: No, I can't get any dates. Had 2 in the last 3 years (1 was online) and it never got to a 2nd date.
nuala: yes, I would say that nowadays it probably shows. But it wasn't always like that. Some time ago I was quite more lively and cheerful in general, but the situation with women has kept the same and it has finally affected me. Still, we have kind of a chicken and egg problem here. I have been years trying to focus on other things, and I do have some things going on in my life. But I've found that just doing that does not make me more attractive or desirable. I'm going to need some help yet it seems I am on my own here.
In the last 2 years I'd say some dozens. I had a pretty active period when I attended salsa lessons since I met a lot of girls there. Lately I do it less often, because of both meeting less women and somewhat losing hope after so many rejections
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