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One of the things that I would love to do is adopting a child some day. Not sure about having biological kids (leaning towards not).
Should I mention this in my dating profile or is it better to save it for a face-to-face conversation?
After you meet someone and get serious you might change your mind about adoption depending on who you meet and the lifestyle you end up with. I don't think I would put it in a profile but I would mention the future possibility of adoption early on.
Wouldn't that be a waste of my and his time is we happened not to agree on such an important subject?
Your desire to adopt is "some day", which could be far into the future. Focus on the here and now of building the relationships.
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
If it's important enough to you that you want to mention it in your profile, I don't really see the harm in mentioning it.
It might scare a fair number of men off. Talking about babies too soon is something that many men do not feel comfortable with.
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Originally Posted by TabulaRasa
IMO, stances on kids needs to be on the table sooner v. later.
Not at all. Depending upon your biological sex and stance, this can actually cost you the opportunity to build something. For men that are indifferent about having kids or outright opposed to it, the best policy is to keep quiet about it for as long as possible. Indifferent men can probably get away with saying something along the lines like "It's not a short term priority item, my short term priority is building a great relationship first."
In general, men really don't need to say anything. Sometimes it won't even come up if the woman doesn't press the issue.
It might scare a fair number of men off. Talking about babies too soon is something that many men do not feel comfortable with.
I hear what you're saying but I feel that those men who are "afraid" of talking long-term (theoretically, of course) is the kind of men that I don't want to attract anyway. And those who are mature enough and ready to build a relationship with the right person are actually very upfront about it.
Not at all. Depending upon your biological sex and stance, this can actually cost you the opportunity to build something. For men that are indifferent about having kids or outright opposed to it, the best policy is to keep quiet about it for as long as possible. Indifferent men can probably get away with saying something along the lines like "It's not a short term priority item, my short term priority is building a great relationship first."
In general, men really don't need to say anything. Sometimes it won't even come up if the woman doesn't press the issue.
So basically you're saying that men who don't want kids should be deceptive about it so that they don't risk missing out on having sex with the woman even if they know they won't be compatible long term because of the kids issue. Right?
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