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Originally Posted by timberline742
There were several times in my mid 30s where it sounded like the woman had everything planned, and was just looking for the groom figuring to stick on her wedding cake. I couldn't help wondering why I was there. I felt like a filler and the only reason they were out with me was because I was single, well educated, and employed. Not because they thought I was someone they really were interested in.
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That is seriously messed up.
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Originally Posted by JasperJade
Bad advice all around. ^^^^
There is absolutely no point in "building something" with someone only to find that you do not agree on this important. The default is "kids someday," but if one is in the minority (no kids, would rather adopt, etc.) it is best to mention this in the first few dates.
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I give good advice. I presented a scenario about indifferent towards kids men and men who outright do not want kids. As far as I can tell, these two groups represent a sizable chunk of men.
The default assumption is that women want children. I believe women want kids more than men.
If a woman has a non-mainstream view on kids, it does not hamper her dating prospects. Women who do not want kids and make it known early on do not face consequences. Guys who say that may face consequences. Women who only want to adopt may get some strange stares, but no real damage. Having a kid is having a kid.