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This thread could be titled "Life got too busy for friends".
Between college, kids and jobs, I find that the only relationships I've nurtured over the past 10 or so years are cyber relationships. I can't believe how many friends have come and gone. I've lost track of most of them just because I didn't keep up with them and the ones I did keep up with, I kept up with on line. So, I really need to find some real friends. Any recommendations on how to start?
Not trying to sound bitter or anything here, but friendship is way overrated. Unless you're great, true, thick-n-thin, bff-type friends, and with someone you've known since you were both children, odds are that the friendship is simply not gonna last, given enough time For regular run-of-the-mill friends, among other things, the minute you or they move away, the chances are that it's over. There are of course exceptions, but that's what I've found to be the case, in literally 99% of my past friends, in my own personal experience.
ETA: OP is definitely right though, that it can be much more practically-easy to maintain cyber friendships; I agree with you on that!
Last edited by Phoenix2017; 06-27-2011 at 06:05 AM..
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Yeah. Find some kind of volunteer group or something through work. I would try to avoid a net based group like meetup (just leads back to your computer).
This thread could be titled "Life got too busy for friends".
Between college, kids and jobs, I find that the only relationships I've nurtured over the past 10 or so years are cyber relationships. I can't believe how many friends have come and gone. I've lost track of most of them just because I didn't keep up with them and the ones I did keep up with, I kept up with on line. So, I really need to find some real friends. Any recommendations on how to start?
Why?
What do you hope to gain from these new "real friends" that you cannot get from Bot-Buddies?
What has changed about your life that will enable you to hold onto these new friends, once you get them? Is your life filled with free time now?
Would you consider settling for "acquaintances"? Much less work, with most of the taste of "real" friends.
i find that if i have to go out of my way to make a friend then it doesnt work out. if i have to MAKE time for him or her etc, it becomes phone tag and emails to TRY to get together. instead i opt to find people in my every day life that i get along with, that i have things in common with and that i feel a true affinity with. that doesnt mean that i am just trying to "love the ones i am with" instead of finding someone. i truly have wonderful friends that i can actually see and talk to for a bit every day. they are just a few--maybe a handful but i can count on great conversation, friendship and if i am ever in need, they are there for me.
Man, I've been waiting to use this phrase for sooooo long ...
"GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER!!!"
Ooooh, damn, baby, that felt sooooo good ... I need a cigarette ...
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For regular run-of-the-mill friends, among other things, the minute you or they move away, the chances are that it's over. There are of course exceptions, but that's what I've found to be the case, in literally 99% of my past friends, in my own personal experience.
I'd rather take those.
