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Just as I told a guy/friend that I was interested in him he started dating someone. I backed off. We're still in contact via FB, in the sense that we see each others posts/pictures/status updates/etc, but no direct communication since he told me he's dating someone.
However, they've broken up like 3 or 4 times just in the last month. Every time they do I get excited, and every time they get back together I feel a let-down. Their yo-yo relationship is affecting me and I don't like it or want to feel that way. I dream about him constantly. Sometimes even more than once a night.
Completely at odds with my desire for a rel w/ ^, I live alone and have lived alone for... 4 or 5 years. I had a relative stay with me for about 3 weeks and although I enjoyed having R, I am sooooooo happy to have my place back to myself. R was not messy or anything, very tidy and respectful, but the pleasure I've gotten from my post-guest cleaning spree seriously has me considering whether I can or should ever get married/live with another person. I'm honestly questioning my ability to live with another individual.
Well, if you told this guy that you are into him but he didn't do anything to show you that he is into you too, than maybe he is just not interested and you should move on. The fact that he has this messy relationship with another girl could be proof that he is not very stable.
As for the relative thing, that fact that you don't feel confortable sharing a space with someone you have no emotional connection to, doesn't mean you won't like being under the same roof with someone you love. Have you ever lived with someone? It really changes your perspective on things.
It really sucks when you like somebody but he doesn't return those feelings. Then it sucks to see him stay in what seems a rocky relationship when he could be so much happier. Kind of makes you wonder what he will behave like if he did decide to date you.
A "fatty" girl who thinks she is a "bad mama jamma" and speaks with ^@& symbols rather than words is probably enough to scare/chase any man with half a brain away and into anothers arms. Whats wrong? Doesnt he know that %^&#* means "i want you?"
This stinks, to be sure. But I think at this point, you need to accept several things. If he wanted you, he knows he could have you. You offered yourself to him before and what did he do? He said, "No thanks," and started dating someone else. Then, he's broken up with her several times. Has he called around to see if you want to give it a go? No. He's not interested.
So at this point, I think you have to do what any of us do in this situation (which I know is hard--we've all been there at one point or another) and put some space between yourself and this guy. You cannot begin to move forward while you have a daily reminder of him through Facebook. You cannot begin to heal from this when the wound is ripped open fresh every time there is an update on his page. I would either unfriend him or put it to a setting where you cannot see his updates. I would step back and take a breather.
There's, obviously, a lot more going on b/w him and I than just what I posted. There are some distance issues and he's indicated an interest in me previously, but I was with someone at the time.
Have I ever lived with someone before? Outside of a college roommate-- no. I dated a guy where one of us stayed with the other every night, but I refused to sell my house and move into his apt b/c it was "more convenient" to his work b/c I couldn't rationalize why I would sell a house to rent an apt. I digress...
No, I don't want to be a yo-yo.
Dear Captain Dan/Troll-- I appreciate your great insight onto my internet persona. Thank you for your interest in my post. However, you do not know me and you choose to base your response on the fact that I used one generic symbol and a few common abbreviations. This, sir, is not my dissertation, but is in fact the internet where shorthand is common, as I'm sure you've noticed by this point.
Yes, I am a bit chubby and I'm honest about it, I fail to see the problem with that... what's worse, I'm not FAT enough for men who happen to like fatties.
You don't know the man I am referring to or what his preferences for women are nor do you know his grammatical/spelling/symbol preferences.
Again, this is the internet, and there's nothing wrong with having a little inside joke in my bio section. In the future, if you have nothing to add to the conversation, please avoid sharing your version of witty repartee.
This stinks, to be sure. But I think at this point, you need to accept several things. If he wanted you, he knows he could have you. You offered yourself to him before and what did he do? He said, "No thanks," and started dating someone else. Then, he's broken up with her several times. Has he called around to see if you want to give it a go? No. He's not interested.
So at this point, I think you have to do what any of us do in this situation (which I know is hard--we've all been there at one point or another) and put some space between yourself and this guy. You cannot begin to move forward while you have a daily reminder of him through Facebook. You cannot begin to heal from this when the wound is ripped open fresh every time there is an update on his page. I would either unfriend him or put it to a setting where you cannot see his updates. I would step back and take a breather.
That's good advice. Don't do what I did. I ended up putting a very nasty post on his wall and he unfriended me. If I could do it over again, I would have just unfriended him. Have to admit though, it did make me feel a little better to embarrass him.
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