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Sex: What Women Want Is THIS
When it comes to sex, women want one thing more than anything else and that is to be wanted. "Being desired is the real orgasm," insists sex therapist Dr. Marta Meana.
A professor of psychology at the University of Nevada at Las Vegas, Meana has been studying women and sexual desire for 20 years. She told Oprah Winfrey on a recent "Oprah" show that while moments of pleasure are great, it's the anticipation and buildup to those moments that really excite women. "I'm not knocking orgasms," she says. "But being desired is extremely arousing for women. The reason for that is that being desired means that a man doesn't just want to have sex. He wants to have sex with you."
And that is every woman's goal. When she seeks out a man, that is her aim: to be desired. "If you look at how women behave and what we spend our time and energy and lots of money on, it's on desire-creating behaviors rather than on trying to get sex," Meana told Oprah.
Well this is true of me--what about other women? Do you feel the same? Is your man more likely to get lucky if he's licking his chops at the sight of you?
I know that the man I ever wanted the most was always looking at me with "that" look in his eyes and it made me want to be him that much more and maybe the reason that many men are unsuccessful with women is because they're afraid to look at women in a way that communicates their desire--but players aren't afraid to look that way--at many women. Of course this can be difficult b/c a man doesn't want to come across as creepy, but then the man I wanted the most did get labeled by me as a creeper at first. Once I realized that he and I had a lot in common, I changed my mind quick enough.
OTOH, my ex never could manage to look at me with desire and I never did want him that much--he never complimented and he never gave me the look. I'm glad he's my ex.
Right, but I didn't know that till the bitter end. When it was over I said no wonder our love life was so unexciting--you're a yin and I'm a yin--I think I'll go find me a yang.
Right, but I didn't know that till the bitter end. When it was over I said no wonder our love life was so unexciting--you're a yin and I'm a yin--I think I'll go find me a yang.
I know that the man I ever wanted the most was always looking at me with "that" look in his eyes and it made me want to be him that much more and maybe the reason that many men are unsuccessful with women is because they're afraid to look at women in a way that communicates their desire--but players aren't afraid to look that way--at many women. Of course this can be difficult b/c a man doesn't want to come across as creepy, but then the man I wanted the most did get labeled by me as a creeper at first. Once I realized that he and I had a lot in common, I changed my mind quick enough. ...
Maybe this is why that "look" is so rare these days - because when men try to use it they're labeled as creeps or perverts or players.
Sure, a player has the "look" down pat - and what does he do with it? He wastes it on a one-night stand! The creep uses the "look" to lure you into exposing more skin for him. The pervert uses the "look" to get you into that special pit in his basement.
And you wonder why the "look" is endangered? I give it to you, you call me a creep, I slither away leaving a slime trail behind me ... and then you CHANGE YOUR MIND and start batting your eyes at me!
I actually don't think the "look" is extinct - it just morphs into that stunned-cow "look" that men get when they've experienced too many femme fatal flip-flops like this.
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