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People normally describe me as shy and introverted. But, like Mariah Carey and Beyonce, I have an alter ego. And when this alter ego walks up and talks to people, it notices that only 40% of people actually want to talk.
Why do people come down on shy people? Unless you're willing to randomly chat up a stranger, what is the point?
Also, why did facebook develop a facebook chat when hardly anyone on it ever wants to chat? There are probably 20-30 out of 154 average who can use it, and only 3 of them actually like to chat.
It is a bunch of BS for someone who hasn't said a thing all day to go up to another person and ask them why they are quiet or shy. Don't criticize people for the same thing you are doing if you are not going to swallow the same medicine.
Some people are just not good at small talk, or not interested in small talk. There's nothing wrong with being shy. There's nothing wrong with being outgoing either. People are just different.
Outgoing is more refering your behavior in a social environment like an event, or a night out, or a party. I dont really considering walking up to strangers or facebook chat to be "outgoing". I also think the people you know will tend to be like you, introverted. So basically your introverted, and you get short bursts of optimism and courage to try to be extroverted, but your surrounded by introverts so that doesn't go well.
My advice? Make some new friends (who are introverted but not as much, more tallkative).
Could be that by being introverted by nature, you have also developed some friendships with introverts too?
I have always been very introverted by nature. To the extent that I suffered from social anxiety for a long time. I didn't mind being near the life of the party, but had no interest to be engaged with them in conversaation all the time.
If most of your friends are people of few words, then that could be why.
As for those who remark you are introverted or shy, it may not be just conversation, but may also be the physical signs you give off, avoiding eye contact, etc.
People normally describe me as shy and introverted. But, like Mariah Carey and Beyonce, I have an alter ego. And when this alter ego walks up and talks to people, it notices that only 40% of people actually want to talk.
You've actually done the math, huh.....
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Also, why did facebook develop a facebook chat when hardly anyone on it ever wants to chat? There are probably 20-30 out of 154 average who can use it, and only 3 of them actually like to chat.
It's Facebook. People don't want to chat, they want attention.
Having hundreds of friends on Facebook is not "living."
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