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I told someone that I would no longer listen to any of his voicemails and blocked his email address. I'll admit, the email I sent to him was pretty intense. But the things he's done to me in the past few years have been totally unacceptable so I finally just decided to write him off. Ok, so some of you can say I had to have the last word, but that's not true. Least I don't think so. Anyway, in spite of my saying what I did he just phoned. His voicemail will just be deleted without listening to it.
So why do some people just have to have the last word? At this point, he can have it. Or think he had it. I don't care but I'm wondering what makes these people tick. Is it just a control thing?
Ah, he is an older man. Maybe it's some "I'm not going to listen to some youngster" sort of deal.
Older men aren't as bad as women though. They're so much worse, it's like they HAVE to, absolutely HAVE TO HAVE the last word. They won't stop until you stop and they say the last goodbye, or last snap!
I don't really care anymore. I just say my peace and leave it at that.
Older men aren't as bad as women though. They're so much worse, it's like they HAVE to, absolutely HAVE TO HAVE the last word. They won't stop until you stop and they say the last goodbye, or last snap!
I don't really care anymore. I just say my peace and leave it at that.
If they do, or think they know more than I do, I will tell them to get bent. I might be more passive about telling them to shove off. If I cross paths with the idiots later and they try to talk to me, I ignore them.
If they continue to try to talk to me, I remind them to shove off. It takes me a while to get to that point with someone, And it usually accumulates.
Older men aren't as bad as women though. They're so much worse, it's like they HAVE to, absolutely HAVE TO HAVE the last word. They won't stop until you stop and they say the last goodbye, or last snap!
I don't really care anymore. I just say my peace and leave it at that.
LOL, I'm a woman and I'm going to just delete his message and he can think he had the last word, so I guess that makes me so much not worse.
Maybe it's true with younger women, but I'm too tired to argue and it's a waste of energy. While I'll venture over into POC sometimes, I can't make a steady diet of it. Too much back and forth bickering and fighting.
Oh, and I think the ignore feature here is great too. I can't argue with those on ignore. And they can't argue with me. Oops, thinking of the other thread. Basically, by putting them on ignore, I am letting them have the last word.
Lol this made me chuckle since I'm notorious for having to have the last word. It often got me in trouble as a little girl and now that I'm older and much more aware of it, I try to control it better but I still have that trait in me, it's part of my personality. I just can't leave the other person with the satisfaction when I know with certainty that I am right...I'll have that itch that won't go away unless I say something . I think that it's a personality thing...at least that's the way I see it since I've been like that since I was little.
Also, I understand what you're saying with that guy. The same happens to me when I try to break it off with a guy and they just can't let go or can't take rejection so they go on and on...so sometimes it's just better if I shut up and let them have their last word. In those cases I don't care if I get the last word in...I just want them to leave me alone .
I love when some threaten to tattle or whatever. I watched that unfold a few weeks back. It was the funniest thing. There are times when button pushing is fun. There are other times when ignoring someone is even more fun.
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Ignore is only one way. unless you pissed them off and they put you on ignore too. It goes along the lines of human nature, expose a weakness and I will exploit it.
Lol this made me chuckle since I'm notorious for having to have the last word. It often got me in trouble as a little girl and now that I'm older and much more aware of it, I try to control it better but I still have that trait in me, it's part of my personality. I just can't leave the other person with the satisfaction when I know with certainty that I am right...I'll have that itch that won't go away unless I say something . I think that it's a personality thing...at least that's the way I see it since I've been like that since I was little.
Also, I understand what you're saying with that guy. The same happens to me when I try to break it off with a guy and they just can't let go or can't take rejection so they go on and on...so sometimes it's just better if I shut up and let them have their last word. In those cases I don't care if I get the last word in...I just want them to leave me alone .
Well, I was never romantically involved with this person, but we were close enough that at one point I asked him to be executor of my will. However, he has now developed this nasty addiction to prescription drugs which has really changed him. He once visited and I was calling hotels just to see if I could get him out of my house. He is not the same person I met when I first met him, but he didn't have the drug addiction when I met him. Granted, he is not smoking crack cocaine, but I still think that drugs really alter a person and I'll even say much more so than alcohol. For all I know, he made that call all doped up and half the time I'm sure he is in that state when I deal with him (or dealt with him).
As far as it being a personality thing, I can see your point. I think I'm guilty of it (at least with bad breakups, but I have to be really provoked), but it has pretty much been limited to that or when someone really crosses the line with me.
Having the last word doesn't mean you've won the argument. It always seems to be important to the one who has the weaker position. That's the only way they can perceive of winning the argument. If you have a strong position, you shouldn't have to repeat it over and over again to get your point across.
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Is it just a control thing?
. I think that it's a personality thing...at least that's the way I see it since I've been like that since I was little.
unless you pissed them off and they put you on ignore too. It goes along the lines of human nature, expose a weakness and I will exploit it. 
