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OP: "I'll see you when I see you" is not an insult, nor is he playing more games. You are FWB w/him, it is simply a noncommittal, innocent, and friendly way to say goodbye. It doesn't mean anything else, and some people are reading too much into it. Then again, I have NOT read the entire thread... just responding to your original post.
I have a guy friend that I've been hooking up with for a little while on the sly. None of the rest of the our friends know that we've been hooking up. We're both single. Anyway, after hanging out today with all our friends in a large group, he gives me a big hug as I'm leaving and whispers, "I'll see you when I see you".
In this context, I have no idea what he means. Does anyone know?
I have a guy friend that I've been hooking up with for a little while on the sly. None of the rest of the our friends know that we've been hooking up. We're both single. Anyway, after hanging out today with all our friends in a large group, he gives me a big hug as I'm leaving and whispers, "I'll see you when I see you".
In this context, I have no idea what he means. Does anyone know?
The answer to your question is Yes. The guy knows.
Nobody here on C-D actually knows. People give their interpretations based on their own way of thinking, and I'm not sure if that tells you more about the guy or more about the persons giving the interpretations.
Let's look at a positive interpretation for a change. Since it was a group setting, it could have meant nothing more than if he had winked at you (meaning something like, "hey, it's kinda cool that we have a shared secret" -- which is something he couldn't actually say in that setting). This is just my wild imagination, but since everyone else shared theirs already, then I'm game to share mine.
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On a different note, generally it may mean nothing at all... It could be just a playful way of talking.
That's what it probably would be if I had said it.
I suggest caring more about actions than silly words. If you consider your present situation with him, and have no problem with it (and you haven't said you have a problem with it, so I'll assume you don't), and his words didn't do anything to decisively kill the situation (like, for example, "we need to stop this because I'm joining the priesthood"), then I don't see any problem here. I'd say treat it the same as if he had said, "see ya."
So just keep enjoying life, which is what you seem to be doing. I don't know why so many people are driven to read so much negativity into this. I'd say you're on the right track, except that I'd try not to analyze so much. I suggest that sometimes it's best to take words at face value and keep living your life. Seems simpler, anyway.
I have a guy friend that I've been hooking up with for a little while on the sly. None of the rest of the our friends know that we've been hooking up. We're both single. Anyway, after hanging out today with all our friends in a large group, he gives me a big hug as I'm leaving and whispers, "I'll see you when I see you".
In this context, I have no idea what he means. Does anyone know?
Him hugging you was probably just an impulse on his part. It meant nothing. "I'll see you when I see you" is just one of those nice pleasant things people say to each other, as in "How are you?" and it's not like they really want to know.
There's a chance he may be hooking up with other girls in your group, but that's probably alright with you, since the two of you are just hooking up. Since you're wondering about whether he meant something deeper, that couldn't mean you've developed feelings for him, could it? Uh oh. You know that's not allowed in the hookup.
Generally, I would agree, but the actions are not particularly convincing.
By "action" I meant what's happening physically, which is that they're hooking up. Since the OP hasn't said that she has a problem with the fact that they're hooking up, then I don't see a problem with it either.
Oh-My-Goodness. Violet..violet. This guys does not like you, like you obviously like him.
There is no hidden secret meaning. He is not secretly tormented inside over his feelings for you. He has no feelings for you, other than you are a buddy that he has had the chance to screw. And wants to keep it that way.
He is not going to become a boyfriend. You are simply a hookup to him. He will see you when he sees you, because you are not important enough for him to make special plans for. He could care less when he actually sees you, UNLESS he is horny.
This is not going anywhere. Dont try to sit here and spend hours pondering over that one sentence. How old are you? You sound young.
You are only a booty call. Dont believe it? Come back in a month and tell us what has happened with him. Let it go, and dont screw him again. It's obvious you cant handle it.
Oh-My-Goodness. Violet..violet. This guys does not like you, like you obviously like him.
There is no hidden secret meaning. He is not secretly tormented inside over his feelings for you. He has no feelings for you, other than you are a buddy that he has had the chance to screw. And wants to keep it that way.
He is not going to become a boyfriend. You are simply a hookup to him. He will see you when he sees you, because you are not important enough for him to make special plans for. He could care less when he actually sees you, UNLESS he is horny.
This is not going anywhere. Dont try to sit here and spend hours pondering over that one sentence. How old are you? You sound young.
You are only a booty call. Dont believe it? Come back in a month and tell us what has happened with him. Let it go, and dont screw him again. It's obvious you cant handle it.
This is true. People tend to over analyze and look for hidden meaning when they want more than what is there. If you are not ok with being just f buddies then you need to stop. Tell him you are looking for more, whether with him or someone else and that the f buddy arrangement is played out for you. He can decide if he wants something more serious or not.
This is true. People tend to over analyze and look for hidden meaning when they want more than what is there. If you are not ok with being just f buddies then you need to stop. Tell him you are looking for more, whether with him or someone else and that the f buddy arrangement is played out for you. He can decide if he wants something more serious or not.
Bolded is exactly what OP should do.
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Don't worry, be happy.
Since you're wondering about whether he meant something deeper, that couldn't mean you've developed feelings for him, could it?
Uh oh. You know that's not allowed in the hookup.
