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A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends.
A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before)
So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends?
A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends.
A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before)
So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends?
Id let it go....
sometimes trying to remain friends is a minefield....
A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends.
A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before)
So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends?
She wants you as a friend and confidant only.
The downside to being friends with your exes is that you will hear about the people they're dating and the fact that they've moved on from you. It's a natural and normal part of friendship. You can't expect them to constantly edit their conversations with you about other people, otherwise you're not being a "true friend" to them.
You need to decide if you can handle hearing about ALL parts of her life (including new love interests), and if you can't, then be honest with yourself and her about it. There's no shame in nixing the friendship and moving on.
I think it's often great when ex-significant others can remain friends, depending upon the circumstances of each person. It can help in the emotional sustenance of life.
For the OP, if your ex can get over talking about the many people she is or has been dating, the rest of your friendship may be enjoyable.
I think it's often great when ex-significant others can remain friends, depending upon the circumstances of each person. It can help in the emotional sustenance of life.
For the OP, if your ex can get over talking about the many people she is or has been dating, the rest of your friendship may be enjoyable.
Lol!
No guy wants to hear about the guys she has been seeing.
A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends.
A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before)
So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends?
Big mistake. Actually, you might have eliminated any chance of reuniting with her, romantically. I don't know who broke up with who, but she was obviously missing you. Either break off completely and let her move on with all of those guys she's supposedly connecting with or give her a chance to return to you. The way to grant her the opportunity to get back with you, is by clearly expressing the fact you're not interested in being just her friend. You're either her lover, which includes being a friend, caring about her like a friend, or moving on. You're being clear and honest with her and skipping the games. No games.
"Understand? I don't want to be just your friend. So, think about it and contact me only if you're seriously interested in getting back together. Otherwise, don't contact me. I'm not interested in you, as just a friend. Bye, take care. "
That's it. If she contacts you, to get together again. Take her out on a date. See how she behaves. Is she serious about rekindling the romance? Is she warm to the touch or is she cold and detached? Flaky, playing games? If that date doesn't end with both of you together, making out, at the very least, then break all contact with her, because she's playing you. She's using you, to feed her ego and get attention.
Just my two cents. From an old 46 year old geezer with a lot of experience with women.
She wants you to serve as an admirer and audience, not a friend.
Don't bother.
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