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I just read an article about divorce on the Kansas City Star website. It quoted a study that found that 60% of divorces stem from "low conflict" marriages. These are marriages where there is nothing significant that occured to serve as a catalyst for the divorce. Such as abuse, infidelity, or financial strain.
I was surprised by this. I always assumed that the majority of divorces were the result of something "major" that happend during the marriage.
Nah, at least from what I have seen in the real world it seems like it usually does come down to the proverbial straw. Although I would add that there also usually seems to be a long time bone of contention or two in the mix.
I just read an article about divorce on the Kansas City Star website. It quoted a study that found that 60% of divorces stem from "low conflict" marriages. These are marriages where there is nothing significant that occured to serve as a catalyst for the divorce. Such as abuse, infidelity, or financial strain.
I was surprised by this. I always assumed that the majority of divorces were the result of something "major" that happend during the marriage.
Well, like anything in the media, we only ever really hear the worst, most sensationalized stories, so I can see why you would have made that assumption.
My observations and experiences would jive with most divorces being "low conflict" as the article reports, though some high drama can occur after the filing!
Last edited by lovesMountains; 09-08-2011 at 05:32 PM..
Perhaps a low conflict marriage is one without passion? It takes a few bumps and jolts to get the rough edges worked out in a relationship which keeps it from getting boring.
Funny thing is that the more I work on trying to work things out with him, the more I learn about myself.
For those that have worked it out, good for you, it is a tough job at times.
Most people get divorced because of "differences", which probably usually means that they're tired of one another, bored or they just give up. It's usually not resulting from things like drunkenness, abuse or adultery.
Newsflash: People grow and change. I think monogamy is great, but what do people think is going to happen when you get married and have kids at 25? Many people just wake up and realize their life is passing them by while they're doing dishes, watching TV, and putting their kids to bed. There's more to life than settling down as soon as possible.
I just read an article about divorce on the Kansas City Star website. It quoted a study that found that 60% of divorces stem from "low conflict" marriages. These are marriages where there is nothing significant that occurred to serve as a catalyst for the divorce. Such as abuse, infidelity, or financial strain.
I was surprised by this. I always assumed that the majority of divorces were the result of something "major" that happened during the marriage.
What is troubling is that more and more, women don't seem to need any reason at all to file for divorce. This is now the #1 reason - no reason at all -and it should make men wonder why they should risk their future on something so fickle, especially when no fault divorce means that they are treated like the divorce is exclusively their fault.
Considering how most single women are so incredibly picky before they even let a man near them, it leads me to wonder whether they have "standards" that are not only dysfunctional but which tend to be diametrically opposed to the characteristics in a man that leads to a successful and long lasting union.
I've certainly mentioned this in other threads. Women seldom consider the important attributes before they get married and then often act hurt when their "prize" has some unpalatable warts that they only find out about after the ceremony. Their husband asks why they were so enamored with him only a few months earlier and suddenly he can do no right. This seldom works out in the long run but I suppose that many women would be embarrassed to list these things as the reason that they divorce.
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