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Can a guy tell if girl is a virgin and is that a turnoff???
Ok, I am seriously in love this guy and have been in love with him for years. Everything about him matches with what I am looking for like beliefs, religious beliefs and he is just flat out interesting. I want to initiate having sex but I am just feeling blah blah about the situation. It puts pressure on me actually to feel confident with him. Since I was a geeky woman when I met him. I still feel like that ugly girl with glasses. I was called and viewed as ugly BUT I always feel like my ugly girl symptoms is always making an reappearance no matter what I try. As a result, I was shy and socially awkward. But for some reason he was genuinely nice to me all those years Ive known him AND would stare at me for so long in different occasions it made me uncomfortable. He just recently reentered my life, I dont know how he feels about me these days so thats why I am wondering if I should initiate the sex. What reason would a guy deny sex? besides if he doesnt feel like it??? .
I dont think he is a virgin and has more experienced than me ....is that a turnoff for guys if the girl is inexperienced???
Can a guy tell if girl is a virgin and is that a turnoff???
Ok, I am seriously in love this guy and have been in love with him for years. Everything about him matches with what I am looking for like beliefs, religious beliefs and he is just flat out interesting. I want to initiate having sex but I am just feeling blah blah about the situation. It puts pressure on me actually to feel confident with him. Since I was a geeky woman when I met him. I still feel like that ugly girl with glasses. I was called and viewed as ugly BUT I always feel like my ugly girl symptoms is always making an reappearance no matter what I try. As a result, I was shy and socially awkward. But for some reason he was genuinely nice to me all those years Ive known him AND would stare at me for so long in different occasions it made me uncomfortable. He just recently reentered my life, I dont know how he feels about me these days so thats why I am wondering if I should initiate the sex. What reason would a guy deny sex? besides if he doesnt feel like it??? .
I dont think he is a virgin and has more experienced than me ....is that a turnoff for guys if the girl is inexperienced???
Not a turnoff really, but it is a possible red flag, because you see so many times from girls who wait, right after they lose their virginity they kind of start to go crazy and sleep with other guys.
It is also a sign sometimes that they really don't know what they want, and after they lose it, they will end up looking for something new.
In the end, it wouldn't really keep me away, I'd look at it as a good thing
Why don't you wait until you are in an actual relationship with him before you start thinking about sex?
Your post comes off like you are trying to jump his bones before you even go out on a date.
I agree. Besides, if you've known him for years and he hasn't asked you out, then he's probably not interested. Forget him and move on.
If you feel ugly, then you need to enlist the help of someone you trust to help make a few adjustments. Plenty of women who lack classic good looks are considered attractive and have managed to find healthy relationships.
Don't degrade yourself by trying to lose your virginity before you're in a stable relationship. Guys will say and do anything to have sex. If you're not emotionally prepared to deal with being used, then you're better off waiting till you're with someone who has shown he's a considerate person and values you for who you are.
Ask him if he wants to play a game of just the tip?
No seriously, relax, if you really want it to happen just be cool about it. Throw some signals his way (extra touching in a slow manner etc) over a quiet evening with a bottle of wine together and nature should take its course.
You could invite him to your place for this date and suggest he bring an overnight bag. To help give the hint.
Can a guy tell if girl is a virgin and is that a turnoff???
Ok, I am seriously in love this guy and have been in love with him for years. Everything about him matches with what I am looking for like beliefs, religious beliefs and he is just flat out interesting. I want to initiate having sex but I am just feeling blah blah about the situation. It puts pressure on me actually to feel confident with him. Since I was a geeky woman when I met him. I still feel like that ugly girl with glasses. I was called and viewed as ugly BUT I always feel like my ugly girl symptoms is always making an reappearance no matter what I try. As a result, I was shy and socially awkward. But for some reason he was genuinely nice to me all those years Ive known him AND would stare at me for so long in different occasions it made me uncomfortable. He just recently reentered my life, I dont know how he feels about me these days so thats why I am wondering if I should initiate the sex. What reason would a guy deny sex? besides if he doesnt feel like it??? .
I dont think he is a virgin and has more experienced than me ....is that a turnoff for guys if the girl is inexperienced???
Not all guys. But I seriously think you should make an effort to get to know the guy before you knock boots with him, unless you're sure you can deal with the fact that you don't know what kind of man he is. Plus getting to know him better could give you some ideas in seduction.
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Originally Posted by burgler09
Not a turnoff really, but it is a possible red flag, because you see so many times from girls who wait, right after they lose their virginity they kind of start to go crazy and sleep with other guys.
It is also a sign sometimes that they really don't know what they want, and after they lose it, they will end up looking for something new.
In the end, it wouldn't really keep me away, I'd look at it as a good thing
I've never known virgins who start sleeping around but maybe that's just me. In my experience, the women out there sleeping around are the ones that got an early unpleasant introduction to sex before they were ready.
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Originally Posted by ellie
I agree. Besides, if you've known him for years and he hasn't asked you out, then he's probably not interested. Forget him and move on.
If you feel ugly, then you need to enlist the help of someone you trust to help make a few adjustments. Plenty of women who lack classic good looks are considered attractive and have managed to find healthy relationships.
Don't degrade yourself by trying to lose your virginity before you're in a stable relationship. Guys will say and do anything to have sex. If you're not emotionally prepared to deal with being used, then you're better off waiting till you're with someone who has shown he's a considerate person and values you for who you are.
Believe it or not, the dating world has improved to the point where women don't have to just sit around staring at themselves in the mirror, pinching their cheeks and poofing their hair waiting for the right man. There's no reason why she can't just make a move herself. I agree with the rest though.
You have to walk before you can run...see if there's even some mutual interest on his part before you start worrying about whether or not he cares if you're a virgin.
If he really likes you and cares about you, then chances are your virginity won't be a dealbreaker.
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