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I mean, if you were a positive, funny, upbeat, self-aware guy with a better attitude, we might even be setting you up.
But in all honesty, do you think anyone who has read your posts over the years would even theoretically want to introduce you to anyone they cared about? Would you date you, based on your posts here?
I wasn’t blaming anyone for not caring it’s what it is we are all just names on a message board.
As far as personality and all that this is a relationship
Forum where people go to talk about it especially those who struggle. Not to chit chat about other things it’s strictly about relationships and dating.
I’m not looking to make friends on a message board
I also think I’ve been pretty self aware in this thread about my faults.
I wasn’t blaming anyone for not caring it’s what it is we are all just names on a message board.
As far as personality and all that this is a relationship
Forum where people go to talk about it especially those who struggle. Not to chit chat about other things it’s strictly about relationships and dating.
I’m not looking to make friends on a message board
That's too bad. I used to think that too, but now I'm in a relationship with someone I met here on CD, and it's been amazing. We got to know each other messaging for about a year, then finally met. But I was already in love with him before I ever met him because of the bond we formed just by talking and getting to know each other. He's moving to my city soon.
That's all I'm saying ... you're limiting yourself by staying so closed off to potential connections because you have such a limited sense of how it could happen.
That's too bad. I used to think that too, but now I'm in a relationship with someone I met here on CD, and it's been amazing. We got to know each other messaging for about a year, then finally met. But I was already in love with him before I ever met him because of the bond we formed just by talking and getting to know each other. He's moving to my city soon.
That's all I'm saying ... you're limiting yourself by staying so closed off to potential connections because you have such a limited sense of how it could happen.
Well I’m unlikeable and not someone people would set anyone up
With according to posters here so I have a bad reputation on here.
Well I’m unlikeable and not someone people would set anyone up
With according to posters here so my names already damaged on here.
You always are SO handy with excuses!
I'm not suggesting that you can or should find a match here on the forum. But YOU have insight to any posters you might have connected with in past exchanges. And by "connecting," I mean felt compassion for, shared a joke with, learned something new about a town, etc.
That's yet another reason you could post about more than just your bleak dating history. If you branch out and talk about other stuff, you could make a friendly connection.
That's too bad. I used to think that too, but now I'm in a relationship with someone I met here on CD, and it's been amazing. We got to know each other messaging for about a year, then finally met. But I was already in love with him before I ever met him because of the bond we formed just by talking and getting to know each other. He's moving to my city soon.
That's all I'm saying ... you're limiting yourself by staying so closed off to potential connections because you have such a limited sense of how it could happen.
I love this whole post, and the bolded is key here.
I met my guy online; he isn't conventionally handsome, not rich, average height, etc. But his smile reached his eyes, he had a friendly profile bio, and he stood out to me so I messaged him first. The rest, as they say, is beautiful history. He's amazing and we have a connection that I had always hoped I would find
I love this whole post, and the bolded is key here.
I met my guy online; he isn't conventionally handsome, not rich, average height, etc. But his smile reached his eyes, he had a friendly profile bio, and he stood out to me so I messaged him first. The rest, as they say, is beautiful history. He's amazing and we have a connection that I had always hoped I would find
People still meet, site unseen, via message boards? Fall in love even before meeting? Well...congrats.... I found this to be most popular during the pre-broadband days. I had a friend of mine that corresponded with a woman on the opposite coast for a year, talked on the phone almost every day.
Then when he flew out to see her in person, she went to a complete ice queen on him. I've heard of similar situations like this. Let's just say, it was more easy to get away with cat fishing back then than it is now.
I'm not suggesting that you can or should find a match here on the forum. But YOU have insight to any posters you might have connected with in past exchanges. And by "connecting," I mean felt compassion for, shared a joke with, learned something new about a town, etc.
That's yet another reason you could post about more than just your bleak dating history. If you branch out and talk about other stuff, you could make a friendly connection.
That could happen in real life, too.
Maybe I’m old school but the making friends on a message board thing is odd to me..
Besides I’ve been treated like I’m some sort of bad person on here and I’m gonna be friends with these people? Lol
People still meet, site unseen, via message boards? Fall in love even before meeting? Well...congrats.... I found this to be most popular during the pre-broadband days. I had a friend of mine that corresponded with a woman on the opposite coast for a year, talked on the phone almost every day.
Then when he flew out to see her in person, she went to a complete ice queen on him. I've heard of similar situations like this. Let's just say, it was more easy to get away with cat fishing back then than it is now.
I met my guy online, he had a profile pic, so not site unseen.
We chatted a few days before we met up and I felt the vibe during those chats.
But there are quite a lot of folks who meet on message boards.
Then when he flew out to see her in person, she went to a complete ice queen on him. I've heard of similar situations like this. Let's just say, it was more easy to get away with cat fishing back then than it is now.
Not liking someone in person isn't what catfishing is, though.
Maybe I’m old school but the making friends on a message board thing is odd to me..
Besides I’ve been treated like I’m some sort of bad person on here and I’m gonna be friends with these people? Lol
It is odd.
But you need to consider that people here have reacted basically to the vibe that you are giving out. Do you still not see it???
You just don't present yourself as a very likable person, yet many people here have spent lots of time earnestly trying to help you get your head out of your own ***. But your message about yourself is so ingrained that you don't even take time to consider that they may be right. You just fire off quick excuses time after time, letting all that help and yes, potential friendship, fly right past you.
There are a lot of people here whose online personalities I like after ten years of interacting here, and more than a couple I'd have a beer with based just on that. Many I fight with often, but even so I can tell who is intelligent and who isn't, who has a caring personality and who doesn't.
You get what you give, JBT, and that's definitely been the case for you here.
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