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Don't flame me on this -- I am asking a sincere question. The men I have known seem to be able to turn their feelings on and off like a light switch.
My ex told me on a Wednesday that we would grow old together. On Friday he said he was outta here, he'd found someone else, goodbye.
My latest (10 month relationship) told me how much he cared, all the things we would do together, etc. A week later he told me he has changed and doesn't think he has time anymore.
How do you do it? Is it just staying detached? Is there a trick to turning your emotions on and off that quickly and being able to walk away without a backward glance?
Just because he tells you this stuff don't mean it is true. But as men in this cold brutal world, we must always push forward.
You think when my dad saw his buddies get blasted away by a machine gun nest in Vietnam that he and his platoon said, "hey, lets get in touch with our feelings and lets just have a pow wow about how we feel"?
Hell no, you push forward and keep moving. Regardless of how bad it hurts on the inside.
Showing your feelings will get you eatin alive in this mans world...or what is left of it. and wearing your heart on your sleave will allow snakes to eat it up, regurgitate it, and eat it again, just for sick pleasure.
This is a lesson most guys should learn before they are teenagers.
The men I have known seem to be able to turn their feelings on and off like a light switch.
My ex told me on a Wednesday that we would grow old together. On Friday he said he was outta here, he'd found someone else, goodbye.
My latest (10 month relationship) told me how much he cared, all the things we would do together, etc. A week later he told me he has changed and doesn't think he has time anymore.
How do you do it? Is it just staying detached? Is there a trick to turning your emotions on and off that quickly and being able to walk away without a backward glance?
Just because the person broke up with you doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings for you all of a sudden. It may be various reasons why he doesn't feel the relationship is gonna work. Hell, it might even be his problem. Like he can't stand commitment but tried with you and learned he really can't commit. But he won't tell you this to save face.
Would it be easier for you to accept a break up if the person said he still had deep feelings for you but felt there was no way to save the relationship? IMO, that would be even harder to deal with.
I know I have no feelings, I shed them all when the cruel heartless vindictive wife of my burned a hole in my soul. bwaa ha ha ha. Seriously OP my wife wasn't any of those things. You are hurt and crying out, we have all been there. To steal a line from a novel no one will recognize, tomorrow is another day. Keep your chin up.
Bottom line: He just didn't want you, ever. He was playing a game and got tired of you. He will get tired of the next woman and the next, until he meets his match...................................a woman who thinks just like him....................................ok, good bye, nice knowing you, NEXT!
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