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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by Red On The Noodle
Don't flame me on this -- I am asking a sincere question. The men I have known seem to be able to turn their feelings on and off like a light switch.
My ex told me on a Wednesday that we would grow old together. On Friday he said he was outta here, he'd found someone else, goodbye.
My latest (10 month relationship) told me how much he cared, all the things we would do together, etc. A week later he told me he has changed and doesn't think he has time anymore.
How do you do it? Is it just staying detached? Is there a trick to turning your emotions on and off that quickly and being able to walk away without a backward glance?
Not to be mean but how old are you that you could actually ask this? Seriously. Of course they have feelings. They just show theirs differently than women do. The issue in your case seems to have more to do with your choices in men than men's feelings. I know my mistakes are about my choices in men. I can't blame the men in my life, past and present, for my choosing them.
Not to be mean but how old are you that you could actually ask this? Seriously. Of course they have feelings. They just show theirs differently than women do. The issue in your case seems to have more to do with your choices in men than men's feelings. I know my mistakes are about my choices in men. I can't blame the men in my life, past and present, for my choosing them.
Couldn't have said it any better, kind of reflective.
I don't think men don't have feelings, but I definitely do think they're inveterately less capable of demonstrating empathy than women.
Men grow up learning to cope with the exigencies of slaying dragons. You do not empathize with the dragon. While some of the womenfolk here would deny it I think most women want men who are men, who will slay the dragon if need be. In order to slay the dragon you must be hard. There is a fine line between putting too much distance between yourself and the thing which must be slain and empathizing too much and being yourself slain by the dragon. Walking this line or even knowing where the line is is not always easy. On the other hand losing sight of turning off the hard thing inside you that lets you do things which are painful is easy enough to do. Regardless if you wish to be a man you will make the attempt and fail or not.
Men have feelings they just are taught to hide emotion or they are ridiculed. However,I think men do have less sensitivity then women do! Not scientific just my life experience talking here!!
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