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1. the heartbreak of divorce
2. the expense of divorce ($100,000 and up)
3. the elation to know on the 1st of the month no giant surprises, only bill u get is yours.
4. the onus put on women to behave or stay home that comes with not being married, living alone.
5. the sex you now get, which was non existent when married.
6. you cook and clean less bek u r not "helping her"
7. the baloney factor in life is now limited to your job.
8. old house was a 3 bedroom, 2700 sq ft. but u used to live at the work bench in the garage 36 sq ft, rest of the house was her turf.,, u only now have a granny flat 400 su ft. but its all yours. feels like a mansion.
LOL yeah, there's always been a purpose for the "tool shed."
I don't know what happened with GenX. But I've known more male friends who cook vs. females I'd dated who were lucky to work a toaster. Holy cow, and I'd cringe if they'd try to "help" with my laundry.
uh, no...please don't try to wash my clothes. Or "scortch" my shirts.
I agree. Most of the reasons on the list are the same reasons I'm single (and I'm a female). It's somewhat sexist in that it implies women can't afford to wait to find the right partner and that they don't have a career to build.
One of our reasons for staying single is that you can afford to wait for your true soul mate (if one even exists) to pop into the picture. You can take the time to casually wade through the barracuda-infested waters of the dating pool and set your hook for the prize catch. In other words, by holding out for Miss Right (instead of Miss Always Right), you can avoid the mistake of a lifetime and marry for love -- and not out of desperation. It's sad to say, but too many guys get hitched for the wrong reasons, like they've reached a certain age, all of their friends are getting married, and they haven't been successful at dating and this woman is the first to show interest. This reason for staying single allows you to take your time playing the dating game, and increase your odds of beating the divorce statistics.
You can focus on your career
Our No. 2 reason for staying single is that you can enjoy the opportunity of building your career without draining the tons of energy a permanent relationship entails. You remain free to put in long hours, work on the weekends or do whatever else you have to do to be successful. This is especially true if you're working in any kind of time-demanding field, such as medicine, law or entrepreneurship. The upside is, once your business hits the big time and you're cranking mucho dinero , you'll have hordes of women throwing themselves at you. That being said, you probably still won't even have time to think about marriage. Plus, don't miss our top tools:
You can do what you want, when you want
When you're single, the world is your oyster. You can pick up and go anywhere you want, do anything you want, any time you want. No one is in the background nagging at you to do chores, go shopping, or "grow up." You're absolutely free to hang out with your buddies, party until dawn and find plenty of time for your personal interests and hobbies. Best of all, you have the luxury of being all by yourself, if you feel like it.
You can enjoy a sexual smorgasbord
One of the best reasons for staying single is that you're not stuck with the same sex partner for the rest of your life. The dating universe is yours to conquer. You can happily sample all the different fare at the sexual buffet, and keep your taste buds primed for the next dish being served. What's more, you never have to wrestle with sexual boredom or lack of variety (and you'll be the envy of all your married friends).
You can build wealth
Staying single means not being forced into buying a 10,000-megawatt diamond ring (so your fiance can impress her friends with the huge price tag) or any of the other bloodsucking financial drains that marriage entails, for that matter. And you won't be stuck having to regularly shell out for the flowers, more jewelry and the other gifts that a wife demands (it's like paying maintenance fees on a condo). By staying single, you're not legally or financially obligated to anyone but yourself. But once you John Hancock the dotted line on that marriage contract, she has you by the balls forever. You can take this money (that somehow spontaneously becomes "hers" once you get married) and invest it in important things like sex-drenched singles' cruises, buying cool cars or building equity in a house.
You can enjoy serenity
Another reason for staying single is that being alone means peace and quiet. When you don't live with a woman, you're not subjected to her never-ending mood swings and emotional storms, or her blaming you for everything that she screws up in her life. And, of course, no fights. As long as you keep her as a casual girlfriend and not a wife, if she gets too uppity you can simply walk away, free and clear.
You can keep your toys
When you're single, you can hang on to all your fun toys -- that classic Mustang, the speedboat, the Harley -- all of which seem to magically disappear overnight once you get married. Your wife won't want you to have these things because they take the focus off her and she feels it's her money that she could be better spending on clothes and shoes.
You don't have to compromise
Being single means you don't have to constantly find a "middle ground" -- meaning, doing what she wants to do (whether you like it or not). This includes being forced to see chick flicks or suffer antique fairs and dinner with her friends. And you'd better toe the line buddy, or you'll have hell to pay and no more sex for you.
The Single Life
While marriage may provide certain benefits, when you choose to stay single, you're keeping the door open for many more options and opportunities in your life. Your male independence is something you should never surrender lightly, even if you think you've met the girl of your dreams. So think twice (or maybe three times) before you take that long walk down the aisle. If you're still not sure about it, however, here's one last reason for staying single: You don't have to deal with in-laws. Point made.
One of the things I love about being single is being able to travel anywhere you want. I went to Europe twice this year and it would have been impossible if I was married and had kids.
Traveling to a new country, meeting new people and experiencing a new culture on your own just does not compare to a stereotypical "family vacation", with wife and kids.
It will take a very, very, very special person for me to want to give up on this lifestyle.
From what every married person I've known has ever told me, that doesn't sound like marriage.
Then maybe your married friends arent in happy marriages? I havent had as much sex in my life as Ive had being married now...same thing for the hubby..we love being able to have that freedom of going at it whenever we want..of course, with married couples who have kids and decide sex falls lower on their list of priorities as a result- then thats really their choice. But marriage is what 2 people make of it. A study came out a few weeks ago proving married people have more sex (on average) than non-married people.
One of the things I love about being single is being able to travel anywhere you want. I went to Europe twice this year and it would have been impossible if I was married and had kids.
Traveling to a new country, meeting new people and experiencing a new culture on your own just does not compare to a stereotypical "family vacation", with wife and kids.
It will take a very, very, very special person for me to want to give up on this lifestyle.
Travelling with a wife and kids is one thing but what about travelling with a significant other? Would you still rather travel alone? I agree with the travelling point too, better to do it while you're still young and single!
Then maybe your married friends arent in happy marriages? I havent had as much sex in my life as Ive had being married now...same thing for the hubby..we love being able to have that freedom of going at it whenever we want..of course, with married couples who have kids and decide sex falls lower on their list of priorities as a result- then thats really their choice. But marriage is what 2 people make of it. A study came out a few weeks ago proving married people have more sex (on average) than non-married people.
This is probably true, considering how many married people I know who've told me to never get married.
I agree. Most of the reasons on the list are the same reasons I'm single (and I'm a female). It's somewhat sexist in that it implies women can't afford to wait to find the right partner and that they don't have a career to build.
But men can have babies whenever they want, women only have a window of time.
But men can have babies whenever they want, women only have a window of time.
Actually, there are studies that show men have a biological clock too- after 40 their fertility drops significantly. Either way, I would never settle just because I had a "window of time" to have a baby. There's more to life than that.
well, I suppose there's no harm in your fiance keeping track of her money. how much of an allowance do you get?
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