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This is for men who feel the need to justify why they are single...probably not by choice.
It's a blame game for people like that. They can't stand to admit that they are dysfunctional in some way (ie no one wants to date them) so they make up false reasons that lay the blame on everyone else but themselves. For shame, but typical.
This is for men who feel the need to justify why they are single...probably not by choice.
It's a blame game for people like that. They can't stand to admit that they are dysfunctional in some way (ie no one wants to date them) so they make up false reasons that lay the blame on everyone else but themselves. For shame, but typical.
If we are completely and utterly honest.. which most people aren't, even with themselves.......
When they put up their facades....every once in a while you see a ch**k in their armor.... you see the "real" person.... then it quickly gets reabsorbed back into the facade.
People on some level know their issues.... its just how often they "know" them......
This is for men who feel the need to justify why they are single...probably not by choice.
It's a blame game for people like that. They can't stand to admit that they are dysfunctional in some way (ie no one wants to date them) so they make up false reasons that lay the blame on everyone else but themselves. For shame, but typical.
I don't think so. A large percentage of guys don't aspire to grow up, go to college, settle down, have kids, and move to the suburbs all by age 30-35. A lot guys, especially in cities like NYC and LA, are not all that interested in being in a serious relationship for the reasons listed and attempt to put it off for as long as possible. I myself have plenty of highly educated, professional male friends who are decent looking and make 6 figures (or close to it), but prefer not to get into anything serious because they get women fairly easily, enjoy playing the field, and have no real incentive to settle down. Moreover, for the majority of them, making money and advancing in their careers takes priority over settling down and starting a family.
Also, you have to realize that most people who really want a serious relationship end up finding a mate. Just take a look around and you'll see plenty of overweight, broke, and unattractive people who are in serious relationships or married. That pretty much tells me that anyone can find a serious relationship if they really try and aren't too picky.
The reason I am single is that I live in America and American women are for the most part **Moderator: snip** That is 1 reason that can be expanded to 8 reasons.
I'm thinking about finding a woman from the East and so should you. Seriously, American women are not relationship material. I would like to try to even befriend them and try to understand them, but I find I am ostracized and treated most inhumanely for even trying to relate to their fabricated prowess.
Last edited by sunshineleith; 11-08-2011 at 11:36 PM..
Reason: removed women bashing comments
Then maybe your married friends arent in happy marriages? I havent had as much sex in my life as Ive had being married now...same thing for the hubby..we love being able to have that freedom of going at it whenever we want..of course, with married couples who have kids and decide sex falls lower on their list of priorities as a result- then thats really their choice. But marriage is what 2 people make of it. A study came out a few weeks ago proving married people have more sex (on average) than non-married people.
" marriage is what 2 people make it"
This is the bottom line, so choose wisely my friends, that is the key!
The reason I am single is that I live in America and American women are for the most part: superficial, self-righteous, arrogant, dominating, masculine, overweight, immature and mentally deranged. That is 1 reason that can be expanded to 8 reasons.
I'm thinking about finding a woman from the East and so should you. Seriously, American women are not relationship material. I would like to try to even befriend them and try to understand them, but I find I am ostracized and treated most inhumanely for even trying to relate to their fabricated prowess.
Not all American women are as you described i.e. bad relationship material. In fact, most of the women I know would not fit your description. I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences, but lumping all American women into the same negative category isn't fair.
If I were to get married, while we both have to agree to do it, I make it a requirement for my woman and I to have sex on a regular basis. Hell, while it's not the most important thing in a relationship, it is near the top of the list. This also applies even if we were to do it before marriage, but it's more vital after "I do" is said. Without some good lovemaking at least once a week (preferably more), that's part of the problem why partners cheat on each other.
Not all American women are as you described i.e. bad relationship material. In fact, most of the women I know would not fit your description. I'm sorry you've had some bad experiences, but lumping all American women into the same negative category isn't fair.
women do it all the time. 1-2 bad relationships and all men are pigs, scum and bastards. No one ever calls them out for it.
I agree the list is somewhat relevant for both males and females.
A few questions though? Why is it that most men report a sharp decline in sex after saying the words "I do?" Why is it that most men can say they haven't received "head" since before their honeymoon?
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Originally Posted by VTHokieFan
Because women's sex drive plummets after their thirties whereas guys' stay the same.
"About 40% of married people have sex twice a week, compared to 20-25% of single and cohabitating men and women." PyschPage
"In 2006, British researchers reviewed the sexual habits of men in 38 countries and found that in every country, married men have more sex." Menshealth
"Married men make more money, have more peace of mind, and have more and better sex." Psychology Today
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When you're single, the world is your oyster. You can pick up and go anywhere you want, do anything you want, any time you want. No one is in the background nagging at you to do chores, go shopping, or "grow up." You're absolutely free to hang out with your buddies, party until dawn and find plenty of time for your personal interests and hobbies. Best of all, you have the luxury of being all by yourself, if you feel like it.
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You can enjoy serenity
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You can keep your toys
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You don't have to compromise
Being single means you don't have to constantly find a "middle ground" -- meaning, doing what she wants to do (whether you like it or not). This includes being forced to see chick flicks or suffer antique fairs and dinner with her friends. And you'd better toe the line buddy, or you'll have hell to pay and no more sex for you.
The Single Life
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All of that's true for me except #4. Married couples DON'T have the same freedom as singles. A single person doesn't have to consider nobody but themselves, whereas a couple has to take each other into consideration with everything. Plus, singles don't have to deal with the ups and downs of relationships. So I hope all couples enjoy their arguments and disagreements
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I havent had as much sex in my life as Ive had being married now...same thing for the hubby..we love being able to have that freedom of going at it whenever we want..of course, with married couples who have kids and decide sex falls lower on their list of priorities as a result- then thats really their choice. But marriage is what 2 people make of it. A study came out a few weeks ago proving married people have more sex (on average) than non-married people.
