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Just yesterday I had a conversation with a female acquaintance. We've known each other for many years and have nothing more than a healthy platonic relationship. She's been divorced for several years and, like myself, is now in a very stable and committed relationship.
We were talking about my ex-wife and her ex-husband. She then told me something that made me want to hug her out of pity and sadness. All I could do was look at her and state, "my goodness, I am so sorry you had to go thru that."
My friend told me that, on the night of her honeymoon, and prior to engaging in intercourse, her husband took her to a XXX movie theater. She told me that, because she had never before had intercourse, her husband felt that this would be a good way to let her know what was in store for her that evening as soon as they'd get back to their honeymoon hotel.
She told me how she cried in silence during the movie. Upon returning to their hotel suite, she was treated with the same course treatment she had witnessed in the movie.
My heart sinks just to think what this darling precious woman went thru. Thanks be to God that she is now in a very healthy relationship and has a very caring partner by her side.
Well, this is a classic example of men and women thinking differently.
I can certainly see the man's point of view. I'm certain that he felt that he was "helping" her out by providing a little "last minute" sex education for his bride.
On the other hand, most women want it to be all "rose petals", and champagne and soft music and candles, and would be pretty damn horrified to be put in this position. To be honest, I am surprised she didn't storm out of the place, pack her bags and fly home ASAP. I'm sure that it did not make for positive marital relations, either that night or in the future.
I have to ask if this couple had kids. Just wondering.
J....My friend told me that, on the night of her honeymoon, and prior to engaging in intercourse, her husband took her to a XXX movie theater. She told me that, because she had never before had intercourse, her husband felt that this would be a good way to let her know what was in store for her that evening as soon as they'd get back to their honeymoon hotel....
Sad, but I have a hard time believing that she never noticed prior to her honeymoon night that she was marrying someone who had a serious porn fetish. Anyone who takes the time to interrupt one of the rarest of cherished moments in a person's life to watch porn clearly has an over-the-top fetish.
Why didn't she and her ex-husband have sex before marriage? Religious beliefs?
It sounds like she was very young and naive. I'm not saying people should necessarily have sex before they get married, but they should know each other well enough first to be sure something like this won't happen.
I'm glad she moved on from that experience and now has a happy relationship
She and her former husband are foreign born and come from a strict Catholic culture. As a result, although in their mid 20's, she and her husband-to-be vowed celibacy until they were wedded.
Not sure how this affected her definition of intimacy, but surely it must have impacted her, and not in the best of ways. I am so glad that her existing life partner is a really good and caring fellow. As previously stated, we've all know each other for a very long time, including her former husband whom on the surface is not a bad guy. But what he did was pitiful and degrading to the one whom he was suppose to protect, honor, and love.
Again, I only share this because I'd never heard such a sad and painful thing. So glad things are completely different now.
Disgusting. But you know something? So many men actually think the way they do it in porn movies is what women like and if they act like the guy in the movie it will make him a great lover. That she'll be all turned on by him.
Well, but, let's be honest here. Some women can be quite "raw and freeky" when in comes to intimacy. Surely, most of us have met one or another in our life. But, I'd dare say that most women prefer the delicate, attentive, considerate intimacy in which they feel comforted, protected, and loved.
By default, a guy should always assume that women prefer kind and delicate love making; the type that makes them feel loved and protected, especially during the very first encounter. Now, if she makes it obvious that she has a "raw" side to her, hey. . .that's when the gloves come off.
Well, this is a classic example of men and women thinking differently.
I can certainly see the man's point of view. I'm certain that he felt that he was "helping" her out by providing a little "last minute" sex education for his bride.
On the other hand, most women want it to be all "rose petals", and champagne and soft music and candles, and would be pretty damn horrified to be put in this position. To be honest, I am surprised she didn't storm out of the place, pack her bags and fly home ASAP. I'm sure that it did not make for positive marital relations, either that night or in the future.
I have to ask if this couple had kids. Just wondering.
20yrsinBranson
With the exception of her current life partner, we've all been friends (her ex-husband and my ex-wife included) for 14+ years. Their marriage ended after 12 years. She and her ex had two amazing children whom are now college grad adults.
Again, thankfully she is in a very healthy relationship now, as am I.
Disgusting. But you know something? So many men actually think the way they do it in porn movies is what women like and if they act like the guy in the movie it will make him a great lover. That she'll be all turned on by him.
No need to complicate or over analyze it. The porn market is geared--by men--toward what they think women like but it's what men like. I've seen hotter scenes in R rated movies.
I completely agree. A little-known fact but something definitely noticable.
I think it could be true for inexperienced men. If he's seen more sex on screen than in real life, he very well could get a skewed idea of what is typical.
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Well, but, let's be honest here. Some women can be quite "raw and freeky" when in comes to intimacy. Surely, most of us have met one or another in our life. But, I'd dare say that most women prefer the delicate, attentive, considerate intimacy in which they feel comforted, protected, and loved.
By default, a guy should always assume that women prefer kind and delicate love making; the type that makes them feel loved and protected, especially during the very first encounter. Now, if she makes it obvious that she has a "raw" side to her, hey. . .that's when the gloves come off.
That's right....a freak between the sheets. That's a must. And if done right, you don't need, and it doesn't look like, one of those bad porn movies with fake noises and mechanical moves.
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