Rekindling old freindships.

[crisan]

Originally Posted by southseeker

Well. Usually, it just happens, and I didn't realize that I did it until a significant amount of time has passed by.

Okay. Chances are that they get this about you. That is why they don't call.

Friends who ask and friends who welcome you back with no questions are good friends to have.

Do you do the same for them?

[Retroit]

Originally Posted by southseeker

No they are not aware that I've been depressed. When I was with them, I pretty much kept it to myself, and the few times that it did slip out, one of them said I whined too much. So what was I to do? In fact, I keep a lot of things to myself, because I feel most people don't care about my problems except for me, so why bother other people with them?

If one of your friends was suffering from depression, wouldn't you -- as a friend -- want to know about that? Everyone suffers from some problem at some point, it's nothing to be ashamed of. The reason we have friends is to be there to help support each other. However, we also have to be careful not to be a constant emotional burden on others. Friends want to know about our problems, but they don't want to be friends with a "problem".

And as far as the contact thing, it's not unfair. I would think when a freind goes missing you'd worry about them a little?

Maybe they have been worried about you. We don't know. But it is more likely that they were afraid to reach out to you because they don't understand what you are going through and don't want to upset you.