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This thread made me analyze my own marriage. MY husband's first marriage - he said his ex got ALL his checks.
Our marriage? - HE get ALL his checks. We don't have joint account. Maybe when I get a job. Right now, he is the only 1 working. I am okay with separate accounts though even if I start working.
He doesn't make a lot actually most of his grumpyness is rooted with short of funds. I don't ask him for anything coz even if I did he won't do it coz he has no money.
I told him recently I want a bike instead of buying me 1 he called his bro in law who got 2 bikes from trash, LOL. Nothing wrong with the bikes though the owner put it in trash coz they were splattered with white paints. YES 2 bikes in trash coz of paint splash - only in america people.
Anyway my husband may not have money but he tries to show me he cares like when he bought a used book it gives 1 free book so he took a tennis book for me. How cheap.... errr sweet.
Also 1 time I made a mistake of telling him I put my left over lunch money he gave to me in my bank he said I 'steal' from him. So he took back the $20 lunch money he gave me for the week.
Anyway I am not a user type and I know he really don't have much money so I don't ask for anything. Usually when I ask for something he can't afford he thinks of other ways to give me what I want like when I told him I want to go to harry potter world in FL just so I can finally taste the butterbeer. Well he does not have money to go to FL but he has money to make me his own butter beer so that's what he did he look up how to make a butter beer and made it for me, LOL.
My inlaws have separate accounts and it makes me laugh seeing them giving each other checks for buying stuff... seems complicated to me. (they each have two checking accounts) Maybe iam stupid or simple but having one account allows us to trust each others judgment when the I want and I need comes into play.
Are you keeping him sexually satisfied? House clean? Cooking? If a PROVIDER traditional role is what you expect of him, then shouldn't he expect the same of you?
LOL! OP should earn the right to her husband's money by virtue of marriage and not because she is sexing him. OP I have a thread here about how women should ""stash'" money away. You really should be ""stashing"" some of his money for rainy daysQ
We have shared which bills we each will pay and he does not want to have a joint account.
After expenses savings and investments $300 is left in my account every month and $1600 is left in his a/c. I use that $300 to buy cloths, shampoo, the pill, lunch when I didn’t take it from home, shoes, bags etc (not designer stuff and not every month) and the rest is spent for my car maintenance.
He uses his balance to buy things for himself. He buys expensive designer shirts. Latest gadgets (iphone, ipad, xbox , laptops etc)
My laptop is so old. My phone is old. I ve been talking about buying a laptop for a few months. He does not offer to buy.
His gifts on special days are always around $40-$50.not that I expect expensive things or I keep records but a man sometimes buys his wife something like jewelry too correct?
Do you think it’s fair that he spends everything-I know it’s what he earned - for himself or do you think he should offer to buy me things because he has loads of fun money? (If I had that much money, I would definitely buy things for him too)
If you had more spending money, would you offer to buy things for your spouse or would you keep spending all money on yourself?
thanks for reading and answering
How one person in a marriage have more spending money than the other? Separate accounts? You buy your own stuff with "your" money and he buys with his? You sound like roommates. This would not work for me.
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OP I have a thread here about how women should ""stash'" money away. You really should be ""stashing"" some of his money for rainy daysQ
