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I think it's worth a shot, but keep in mind any guy who does this is more than likely not interested, so make sure you aren't getting used in any type of situations. Who knows what happened though, send a message, there is really no harm.. and honestly if a girl did that to me and I wasn't interested, I'd send a response saying no, but I wouldn't sit back and say "this is the weirdest girl in the world"... well just make sure you only send 1 and not 20.
If he abruptly ended the date, then NO I would not try to have him as your FB friend. He isn't much of a person if he didn't realize you were very nervous and try to be more understanding. I would just move on.
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If he abruptly ended the date, then NO I would not try to have him as your FB friend. He isn't much of a person if he didn't realize you were very nervous and try to be more understanding. I would just move on.
I agree with this. One of the worst dates I went on was because I was so nervous I blew it big time. But he must've seen it and we tried it again, although, initially, he told the people who set us up, never again. She was trying to get out the door before I brought the car to a stop. LOL 35 years later, we're (for lack of a better term right now) soul mates. Best friends. Every date thereafter just got better and better. That's why I don't believe in first impressions most of the time.
I think these are all really great points, especially the part about him not recognizing I was nervous. It's extremely frustrating, considering how well I thought we got along and that we had a lot in common. My friend said he's too particular about women and that he needs to get over that, since it prevents him from being open to people who are potentially really good for him. We're already friends on Facebook, but I'll think long and hard before contacting him. He works a few blocks from where I live, so the likelihood of running into him is quite good. I guess I can see what happens. I really appreciate all of your responses. Thank you.
Anyway, the thing is that 1) I'm new in town and have been ridiculously busy since I got here and haven't had much time to make friends, so I spend most of what little free time I have alone, 2) feel like I didn't make the best impression because I was so nervous, and 3) actually really like him as a person and think he'd be awesome to hang out with, since we have a number of things in common. So is it weird if I politely send a Facebook message saying that I enjoyed meeting him and understand completely if he's not interested, but that I'd like to actually be friends, since I think he'd be fun to hang around?
The bolded, that would be fine, except, leave out the underlined. Sounds like a low self esteem issue to say stuff like that.
As for dating someone who says they're not looking for a relationship and are happy single, that's fine--if you're looking for the same. The danger is in dating them knowing they feel this way and later falling in love with them. You were warned from day one so you're only setting yourself up for disappointment. Date people who are like-minded, seeking relationships, if that's what your purpose of dating is. If not, date him.
I posted on another thread about a date I went on with a guy earlier this week, who I was really interested in. I met him through a friend and thought our date was going well, until he abruptly ended it and hasn't called.
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