Attracted to type of woman my wife can never be (Asian, how to)
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Hey I'm a man in his mid twenties who is married to a wonderful woman who I am very attracted to. My problem is that I have a very strong attraction to a particular type of woman that my wife is not. To avoid confusion I will simply say that I am extremely attracted to cute asian women which my wife is not. The group is not the focus in this topic it's the fact that I'm extremely attracted to a group my wife can never be a apart of. I love her and I find her very attractive and sexy but when I see a cute, attractive asian woman approach me, my heart races and I get nervous. I hate it and I'm glad this hasn't happened in front of my wife but I don't know how to stop it. I usually just walk away or stay busy to avoid excessive glances in her direction but I need a better solution. I want to rid myself of this somehow. Yes I know attraction isn't a choice but I love my wife and even distractions like that make me feel guilty. Any ideas? I will never leave the happy life I have with my wife just to pursue pointless desires that arise once in a blue. It's like leaving my beautiful house to spend one night in a flashy expensive hotel just to realize I lost my house because of it.
OP, you married too young and probably got married without having lived life to the fullest before tying the knot. I suggest you get some marriage counseling, and if that doesn't work out, maybe think about getting a divorce so that you can fulfill all your urges and desires before remarrying in your late 30s or early 40s (if you choose to do so).
Agreed.Don't have a problem making that choice. I've dated what I thought I really wanted plenty of times but it never worked out. I broadened my horizon and met my wonderful wife. But I can't seem to shake the feeling I get around the other type of women.
Hey I'm a man in his mid twenties who is married to a wonderful woman who I am very attracted to. My problem is that I have a very strong attraction to a particular type of woman that my wife is not. To avoid confusion I will simply say that I am extremely attracted to cute asian women which my wife is not. The group is not the focus in this topic it's the fact that I'm extremely attracted to a group my wife can never be a apart of. I love her and I find her very attractive and sexy but when I see a cute, attractive asian woman approach me, my heart races and I get nervous. I hate it and I'm glad this hasn't happened in front of my wife but I don't know how to stop it. I usually just walk away or stay busy to avoid excessive glances in her direction but I need a better solution. I want to rid myself of this somehow. Yes I know attraction isn't a choice but I love my wife and even distractions like that make me feel guilty. Any ideas? I will never leave the happy life I have with my wife just to pursue pointless desires that arise once in a blue. It's like leaving my beautiful house to spend one night in a flashy expensive hotel just to realize I lost my house because of it.
I find that incredibly sad. I don't fault you for it. You sound like a great guy with good character but is facing a tough situation. That said, I often feel flushed and butterflies when an extremely attractive men heads my way. I don't act on it and I don't think about him after he's gone so I don't really care. I'm sure my husband looks at other women and I don't care that much. It's normal and as long he's not rubbing my face in it then I don't care.
I dunno what to tell you. I can't relate to that because I don't have a type. I like men of many varieties. Maybe some sort of hypnosis or alternative therapy would work to rid yourself of this over-the-top attraction.
OP, you married too young and probably got married without having lived life to the fullest before tying the knot. I suggest you get some marriage counseling, and if that doesn't work out, maybe think about getting a divorce so that you can fulfill all your urges and desires before remarrying in your late 30s or early 40s (if you choose to do so).
Believe me I've had my fill. I feel my life is more fulfilling with my wife than if were to go around sleeping with every asian woman I wanted. I dont want to cheat I just hate that I'm so attracted to that type of woman that it makes me nervous.
I find that incredibly sad. I don't fault you for it. You sound like a great guy with good character but is facing a tough situation. That said, I often feel flushed and butterflies when an extremely attractive men heads my way. I don't act on it and I don't think about him after he's gone so I don't really care. I'm sure my husband looks at other women and I don't care that much. It's normal and as long he's not rubbing my face in it then I don't care.
I dunno what to tell you. I can't relate to that because I don't have a type. I like men of many varieties. Maybe some sort of hypnosis or alternative therapy would work to rid yourself of this over-the-top attraction.
Perhaps. I too no longer think of it once their gone. I guess I dont like the idea that other women can make me feel this way.
Tough balls. You made vows based on a true love and you have to stick to them if you have integrity. Sadly most people today think it's all a joke and some trivial matter and something you can just toss away into the breeze if it doesn't suit you because something appearing "better" comes along.
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