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For most of my life, I have not let people get close to me. THat includes friends and women I date, as well as my family.
When I make a new friend or start dating a new person, it freaks me out when I get emotionally close with them, and I usually sabotage the relationship in some way.
I remind myself of a drifter, moving from person to person and keeping a mysterious vibe, because I keep everyone outside of my personal gate. Of course this results in the lack of close friends, and I've never had a relationship longer than 6 months, usually because I bail or the woman is tired of trying to break into my emotional vault that I keep hidden from everyone.
It sounds almost like you're romanticizing yourself, TBH.
Lighten up and have some fun. So what if you keep yourself a little distant? There's such a thing as being too open. I think you're thinking of yourself as a sort of "desperado"...IDK, just a feeling I get.
It sounds almost like you're romanticizing yourself, TBH.
Lighten up and have some fun. So what if you keep yourself a little distant? There's such a thing as being too open. I think you're thinking of yourself as a sort of "desperado"...IDK, just a feeling I get.
Laugh a little!
hmmmmmm, interesting. I will have to ponder your words, as there may be some truth there.
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It sounds almost like you're romanticizing yourself, TBH.
Lighten up and have some fun. So what if you keep yourself a little distant? There's such a thing as being too open. I think you're thinking of yourself as a sort of "desperado"...IDK, just a feeling I get.
For most of my life, I have not let people get close to me. THat includes friends and women I date, as well as my family.
When I make a new friend or start dating a new person, it freaks me out when I get emotionally close with them, and I usually sabotage the relationship in some way.
I remind myself of a drifter, moving from person to person and keeping a mysterious vibe, because I keep everyone outside of my personal gate. Of course this results in the lack of close friends, and I've never had a relationship longer than 6 months, usually because I bail or the woman is tired of trying to break into my emotional vault that I keep hidden from everyone.
What's up with that? Discuss...
I can relate to you although I am capable of long term relationships with a partner. I have come to accept that this is who I am and there will always be a part of me that is kept hidden. My husband sometimes gets annoyed at me but he understands this reticence on my part to fully reveal myself. I just put it down to being a Scorpio
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I can relate to you although I am capable of long term relationships with a partner. I have come to accept that this is who I am and there will always be a part of me that is kept hidden. My husband sometimes gets annoyed at me but he understands this reticence on my part to fully reveal myself. I just put it down to being a Scorpio
I'm Aquarius and I'm the same way. Then again, Scorpio and Aquarius are supposed to be the oddest, most misunderstood signs.
I can relate to you although I am capable of long term relationships with a partner. I have come to accept that this is who I am and there will always be a part of me that is kept hidden. My husband sometimes gets annoyed at me but he understands this reticence on my part to fully reveal myself. I just put it down to being a Scorpio
LOL....having a Scorpio Venus, its definately a trait. Not that theres anything secretive to hide. They value their personal privacy in all relationships. Its a vulnerability thing.
I am this way also. My friends tell me everything and I listen. With dating, honestly, sometimes I get so tired of the blah, blah life story, get to know you stuff that I don't talk...just listen. After all, most people like to talk about themselves. The men I've met recently can go on for hours and hours and hours....
People who talk about themselves are the most boring people I can meet. They go on and on about themselves and eventually I fall asleep or I walk away. If I have to go on a date with one like this, I stop the date and leave. Just not my thing.
People who talk about themselves are the most boring people I can meet. They go on and on about themselves and eventually I fall asleep or I walk away. If I have to go on a date with one like this, I stop the date and leave. Just not my thing.
Ever noticed people who can't handle silences in conversation so they never come up for air? Its not always bc they're self centered, just nervous.
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So what if you keep yourself a little distant? There's such a thing as being too open. I think you're thinking of yourself as a sort of "desperado"...IDK, just a feeling I get.
