If a guy asks you to his place... (date, girl, attracted)
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Say you are on a first date with a guy and you have a good time together. If he asks you to come back to his place after the date and you decline (because it is too soon or some other reason). Would you see him again or would you think badly of him for asking?
Say you are on a first date with a guy and you have a good time together. If he asks you to come back to his place after the date and you decline (because it is too soon or some other reason). Would you see him again or would you think badly of him for asking?
Maybe he had such a good time, he got carried away and thought he'd have an even BETTER time at his place.
If he still wanted to go out after I declined going to his place, I'd go out.
I wouldn't do anything that made me uncomfortable, either.
Dates should be fun and relaxing for BOTH people.
Say you are on a first date with a guy and you have a good time together. If he asks you to come back to his place after the date and you decline (because it is too soon or some other reason). Would you see him again or would you think badly of him for asking?
I would decline because it is too soon. I have to force myself to decline... It would be hard to decline especially if we have a great time. I wouldnt think badly of him for asking.
Wouldn't it be then awkward for the guy to ask again on the second or third date if he got rejected the first time? Both awkward for the guy asking again and the girl if she declines again.
Wouldn't it be then awkward for the guy to ask again on the second or third date if he got rejected the first time? Both awkward for the guy asking again and the girl if she declines again.
He should know better. He set himself up for the decline.
I think it is bad form to ask on the first date.
Say you are on a first date with a guy and you have a good time together. If he asks you to come back to his place after the date and you decline (because it is too soon or some other reason). Would you see him again or would you think badly of him for asking?
Why would I think "badly" of him for finding me sexually desirable??
That's silly and yes, I would see him again if he wanted to and I was still attracted to him.
Wouldn't it be then awkward for the guy to ask again on the second or third date if he got rejected the first time? Both awkward for the guy asking again and the girl if she declines again.
Why would it be awkward?
Also, if you have these sexual hangup issues where you're gonna have the guy wait for several weeks or months, it's only fair you should tell him that.
If he's aware that he may never get any for awhile, then he's going out with you because he genuinely likes you.
If he doesn't feel like waiting for weeks on end, then that's okay too.
No need to keep wasting each other's time. The end game for most people (if they're physically attracted to each other) is to eventually have SEX one day.
I probably wouldn't think badly of him after a third date. Also, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. There are guys who just want you to get to know them, and that includes where they live.
My S.O. executed it soooo perfectly, because this is a man without guile. He invited me back to his place on our fifth date. By then, he knew that I wanted to be all over him like white on rice (I made that abundantly clear), but he still asked if I'd like to spend the night with him and told me he understood if it was too soon, that we could just continue to date longer. And he really meant it. So ...
Pounce.
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