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A friend of my parents built a house several years ago and had a sign nailed next to the front door. All it said was "we don't like yours either!". My dad asked him what that was about. People would come up to look at it and tell them it's very nice. But I would have put the door over there, or the window is too short, etc.
I was thinking that as well but personally I would never spend that kind of money on a remodel. That amount would buy the land I want, build the house I want and pay off my last student loan with enough left over for a small cup of coffee at the local diner.....
$60,000 would buy you land, build a house and pay off a student loan? Wow! Where do you live?
A friend of my parents built a house several years ago and had a sign nailed next to the front door. All it said was "we don't like yours either!". My dad asked him what that was about. People would come up to look at it and tell them it's very nice. But I would have put the door over there, or the window is too short, etc.
At least you realize she put some dough into this project. I doubt it's anything short of spectacular.
Actually, by a lot of people's standards, it isn't even "spectacular." When we started, we thought it would maybe run us $30,000 max. Good quality materials and work are expensive, though, and we're really glad we did it. It was a miserable, depressing place to be, and now we're going to love being in it.
Actually, by a lot of people's standards, it isn't even "spectacular." When we started, we thought it would maybe run us $30,000 max. Good quality materials and work are expensive, though, and we're really glad we did it. It was a miserable, depressing place to be, and now we're going to love being in it.
I know a little bit about the subject. You've earned the right to be proud.
I think people are going to comment, that is just human nature. I doubt that most of your friends realize that is a touchy subject with you, because it isn't with most people. If you have a smart comeback you may risk loosing a friendship. If you don't care about loosing a friendship, why would you invite people into your basement to look it over and give their approval? I think you need to develop a little thicker skin.
I would say, considering some people are so under priveledged they will never have a finished basement, my husband and I are quite happy and grateful for it.
Although I tend these days to shrug them off more easily than I once did, there are certain people in this world who absolutely LIVE to "win". They will convolute arguments, speak in circles and even pretend a superior position by saying back to you the very things you said before, and if this is pointed out they will argue that you didn't say what you THOUGHT you said, or the old chestnut of "oh, sorry -- I must have missed that, BUT..." because there is more to add which surely means that YOU are still wrong.
These people do not care to listen; they do not care what you have to say. What is important is that THEY speak their piece, and that YOU admire them for their obvious superiority -- if not over everyone then certainly over you.
Upon realizing the sort of person with whom I'm dealing I will often begin to take a "fun" approach to the whole encounter, less baiting them and more just pointing out repeatedly their ravenous desire to argue at all cost.
The kinds of statements one will often hear involve things like "I'm not saying you're wrong, BUT --"
I like to follow that with "You're not saying I'm wrong... but I AM and it galls you. Is that it?"
When they switch to saying back to me what I initially said, merely rearranging the words a smidge or substituting so that a colour isn't "dark grey" anymore, now it's charcoal...
I like to say "So you have to argue with me because it was wrong a moment ago when I said it, and now to argue against it you're saying it back to me, because it's RIGHT when you say it instead of me -- am I getting this?"
Generally however, I just shake it off and although I HATE ending things this way, I say "Fine -- whatever." Truly, I hate that; but I am a strong believer in the adage never try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
I don't know, but I don't have catty, mean people come over to my home. If I have to socialize with people like that, I do it away from my home, at a time limited event. I got to a point with my ex husband's sister, to never have her at our home, ever. When we socialized with the "female dog", it was at someone else's home, so I could leave before saying something I would regret. She was a piece of work...mean as a snake, and snarky.
"Oh, you just got a new fridge? I read about that model in consumer reports, that it was over priced, and expensive to run...but I guess when you buy things on sale, you get what you get.".
Whatever. That was the last time she came to our home.
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