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I think that anyone who takes their wife out and she spends time at the bar visiting with other guys and making friends with all the bartenders has a reason to feel insecure. I'm wondering what the OP is doing while she is conversing with the other guys. She appears to need more attention than the OP can give her.
Maybe she's being friendly? I'd be more concerned if she was bar hopping without the OP, but since he's there....Seems a little silly to pick up your cheating partners while your spouse in sitting right there. lol
I love it when my wife dresses sexy. How else should she dress. Then again my wife is sexy. She likes to look good and she takes care of her self. I think that some women may dress to impress other women though more than to try and get the attention of other men. My wife seems to be more or less like that.
For me I love to be surrounded by beautifull people and things. As an example I love the look of a Ferrari. Still I wouldn't run over and get my hands all over the car. I respect the car and the effort that it took to acquire the car. The same goes for a woman that is dressed sexy.
I love a good occasion to look sexy (not TRASHY). My husband likes it too. I like it because I love to look good period. My husband is a successful and handsome man and I like his coworkers and friends to think, "Damn he did good for himself." Is that shallow? Perhaps. I also like what happens later....
Nicely said.
Complimenting...
Mircea
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Originally Posted by scocar
So I've had this conversation a few times with my wife regarding dressing sexy when we go out. She says she likes to dress sexy both for me and for her. She claims she is not doing it so other guys will look at her, but she does realize that sort of comes with the territory. She thinks that I would like that other guys are looking at her, as that would indicate they are jealous that she's with me and not them. I have a different perspective in that I look at it from what I think of girls that are dressed sexy and are with their man. I automatically think they are trying to attract the attention of other men. So I think it is somewhat disrespectful towards the spouse/bf. Because I have a negative opinion of him in that his wife/gf is not interested in him enough so she has to get attention from other sources.
I'm interested in what both men and women's opinions are regarding this. It may be important to note that my wife and I are both reasonably well fit and attractive. And the sexy attire I'm talking about is not over the top, cleavage hanging out, but like mini-skirt, tight top, heels. Sexy, but in a classy way.
The short answer is that one or both of you have emotional problems.
If you are not insecure, then you are jumping to invalid conclusions. There's nothing wrong with people dressing up. It makes them feel good, or perhaps it's part of an image that they wish to maintain. It would be hypocritical to be okay for a man to dress sharply, while his wife is in sack-cloth. I mean, she's a wife, not a nun.
I am disturbed by your wife's comments. She sound like an attention-seeker, or a game-player, trying to play you to get a rise out of you, which doesn't bode well for the long term prospects of your marriage (even more so if she dyes her hair a different color, because that is typically an indicator of self-esteem issues).
Of course, you knew all this before you got married, right?
I mean she didn't just start doing this yesterday (and if that happens to be the case, then your suspicions may be well founded -- ie she is looking).
I guess the question is if it didn't bother you before you were married, why does it aggravate you now?
The short answer is that one or both of you have emotional problems.
If you are not insecure, then you are jumping to invalid conclusions. There's nothing wrong with people dressing up. It makes them feel good, or perhaps it's part of an image that they wish to maintain. It would be hypocritical to be okay for a man to dress sharply, while his wife is in sack-cloth. I mean, she's a wife, not a nun.
I am disturbed by your wife's comments. She sound like an attention-seeker, or a game-player, trying to play you to get a rise out of you, which doesn't bode well for the long term prospects of your marriage (even more so if she dyes her hair a different color, because that is typically an indicator of self-esteem issues).
Of course, you knew all this before you got married, right?
I mean she didn't just start doing this yesterday (and if that happens to be the case, then your suspicions may be well founded -- ie she is looking).
I guess the question is if it didn't bother you before you were married, why does it aggravate you now?
Dressing sharply...
Mircea
I was nodding in agreement until I got to the part about dying her hair a different color. I don't think that has anything to do with the price of rice in China, much less self-esteem. It's just another element of fashion, nothing more.
Also, I can't assume she's trying to get a rise out of him. It sounds like she's just aware that people will notice her.
why do you keep on polluting this thread with your nonsense?
So, if I think (my opinion) that a woman would be treated more respectfully, if she dresses with class, I'm polluting? Real women don't have to be told this, and would never be opposed to it. Mod cut: personal attack.
Some of these females need to stop playing themselves. We all know you can wear whatever you want. But, you also realize that dressing provocatively is gonna draw unwanted attention. We both know that won't change. So, tell me anything you'd like, because at the end of the day, you're still gonna get unwanted attention. You'll never control how others react. *lol*
Thank you to those who stayed on topic and gave helpful commentary and advice to the OP. Whether OP takes the advice is up to him.
The thread is closed because it got way off topic and turned into a bicker fest.
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