Question for men who use Match.com (dating, women, single)
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What is your method for trying to find your perfect match? Are you guys picky and just message women who are extremely attractive or somewhat out of your league? How often do you you guys get winks and messages from women you find attractive. Also is there a specific criteria most women have to meet in order for you message or wink back at them?
I met my ideal partner on match, met some very nearly ideal matches, and also made some marvelous, lasting friendships.
After quickly learning that initiating contact almost never worked, I greatly improved my profile and let those women who were interested contact or wink at me. I would always reply, even when not interested. I think I had very high standards, and some that were unusual, so I tried to attract those women specifically, and it worked. My criteria probably aren't the same as most, but the ones I'm sure everyone shares is some sense of attraction based on photos (though I did meet many who had none), profile information indicating compatibilities, and writing style.
After quickly learning that initiating contact almost never worked, I greatly improved my profile and let those women who were interested contact or wink at me.
must have been one hell of a profile improvement. what did you do differently?
must have been one hell of a profile improvement. what did you do differently?
That's a trade secret! LOL
Very simply, I kept revising it based on the responses I got, to try to attract women closer to my preferences. It was very important to use good writing style, humor, a positive attitude, and balanced amounts of information about me versus what I sought. Oh, and several good, clear, "normal" photos helped a bit.
Most men aren't picky on a dating site. At least not after a few months of zero dates. Basically, once a man realizes the ratio, he'll just email any girl that is slightly attractive to him and isn't fat. Some guys will just email every single woman and if/when they get a response THEN they'll decide if they're interested in chatting further.
I, personally, just used to search women who were not overweight, somewhat interesting profiles (could write a complete sentence), was fairly cute/attractive, and was shorter than me. I used the height requirement because I got ZERO reponses from women who were close to my height or slightly taller. I didn't have a problem with their height, but I figured most women do so I didn't see it being worth the effort to message them.
I almost NEVER got winks, excempt from really really huge women.
I never liked match, I never had much success with it. At least the dates I did get I found the women to be low caliber, and somewhat disrespectful.
I then went the free site route as I was unemployed for a few months and used OKCupid. I had a little better results, met my ex-gf but the other dates were about as low quality as match.
I think I liked eharmony the most. I only ended up dating one woman from that site, but I got to communicate and talk to quite a few in a short time which allowed me to rule some out and determine that there wasn't much connection before even wasting time on a date with them. I liked eharmony because as a man approaching 30 with a busy career and social life....I don't have time to read your profile and think of an interesting email to send you. Eharmony would let me view her pictures, browse her profile very quickly, and then I could simply click a button if I was interested and then it was out of my hands. I liked that. Little effort on my part required in what I call the "pre-reciprocation stage", meaning: if I don't have any idea if you're even interested in me or even active on the dating site, I really don't have the time to spend on trying to court you or gain your interest. Life is too short and I have much better things to do with my time. Most women pass guys like me up because they obviously feel they can do much better....I say let them keep searching.
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