friendship before a relationship and what girls look for in a guy (dating, married)
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okay now I in my time have met many girls before and believe me a girl does not want a guy who will crack onto her straight away and for starters I am not that sort of guy because I always consider a woman a wonderful soul and spirit I do not look at a woman by her looks I look at a woman by her heart and by her spirit and soul.
why because a good somebody to be with is a girl that is totally switched on and able to maintain a freindship as well as a relationship in return.
I never ask girls if they have boy freinds or not until I either find out or get to know them more.....
I always see women as alike men a spirit a soul and a person I think that alot of girls I see can be very argue-mentive while some aren't like that.
what a girl looks for in a guy is a freindship first and see how it goes even before jumping straight into a relationship is never best before you get to know one another first and then find out everything about one another and see what happens next I myself is not looking for a relationship but I take life as it hits me.
but in my eyes there is far much more then just what I said its understanding that no one is a perfectly good person unless they have a greater heart from within them and that's what I call a spiritual connection that I have with all my freinds male and female freinds but I never try and look for a girl or try and get a girl not that I could not care just because I need to know that person first well or even very well before I jump into a relationship.
what a girl looks for in a guy is a freindship first and see how it goes even before jumping straight into a relationship is never best before you get to know one another first and then find out everything about one another and see what happens next I myself is not looking for a relationship but I take life as it hits me.
Great that you're not rushing things or focused on the superficial when it comes to love.
However, I've seen this come up repeatedly here, about being friends first. I think that if you approach others you are interested in/attracted to with a "friends first" attitude, that is often all you'll end up with.
Dating someone IS the precursor to a relationship. Dating is the ritual of getting to know someone, to know whether or not you want to pursue a romantic relationship, but is not yet a relationship. That's the whole point of the process.
In my experience, I don't know of anyone who has ever set out to make friends with someone and then hoping friendship will become a romantic relationship. Friends are people you have a connection with, shared interests or views, but don't have a romantic/physical attraction. While it is good that your ultimate partner in life be your friend as well, IMO friendship is something that is blossoming along with the love, not before it.
When you hear anything starting with a sweeping generalisation of an entire sex - "All girls like...." "What girls want is...." "Girls only like guys who...." - you know from the outset the speaker is more often than not just talking nonsense.
People are individuals. What they like - do - or seek in others is just as individual as they are. There comes a point where one realises that there is no formula to apply.
If you meet a person - of either sex - treat them as an individual. No more - no less.
When you hear anything starting with a sweeping generalisation of an entire sex - "All girls like...." "What girls want is...." "Girls only like guys who...." - you know from the outset the speaker is more often than not just talking nonsense.
People are individuals. What they like - do - or seek in others is just as individual as they are. There comes a point where one realises that there is no formula to apply.
If you meet a person - of either sex - treat them as an individual. No more - no less.
totally agree.. which is why people that try to act like someone they are not to appease someone never works out. You need to find someone that likes you for who u are.
Generalizations like women only like bad boys/ alpha males/ football players/ millionaires....
its all bogus, otherwise 1% of the population would be married if that
EVERY relationship I've had started out as friends first. WHY it continues to be peddled here that that is the wrong way of going about it continues to baffle me at every turn.
I like how "friends first" is your idea but you say it's girls idea.
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