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This is really somethig that has come up as my BFF (girls - she's 30 more conservative; I'm 42 and let's say...lived/living) we are working on a relationship book...in the process, we have to examine all past relationships, and what stood out as odd, but we never called it when we should have.
Two men, one was a LTR and one was a surprise FWB that crashed & burned. The men are completely opposite but both are ambitious and driven; outside of that, they'd not be friends (mind you, they aren't).
In any event, we are open, honest and really maybe too much. I try to not give too many details about past lovers; why? However, each of these men were "stingy" with compliments, even though everything was great - totally chill, great $ex, nice talking. Yet, when we talk...they can't resist mentioning other girls, and the one, he's a B-list celeb, had been with Playboy chics. I don't care; know what I have and am way comfy in my sexuality/womanhood. The other, the LTR, you'd need a crow bar to get a compliment; but in all other ways, they adore me. I want to keep my identity safe on CD because I have freedom to write, but I'm probably safely an 8 as you men would rate.
What I expect is a series of "He's Just Not That Into You" and that's fine - but when I am not needy does this need to prance past loves in my face some way to bring me down?
Guy's perspectives on this would be extremely helpful. You know...c'mon...tell a girl.
I can never understand people that are stingy with compliments. Words are cheap and can be used at no cost. I use words to my advantage and flatter people appropriately. At the end of the day, everyone appreciates a sincere compliment from time to time.
Don't even get me started on guys who live off of telling conquest stories. They get no respect from me.
I've had my share and even the openly insecuere were sure to say something great...it frickin' kills me!
How can you proclaim love (the LTR) or lust (the FWB) and not say anything good? Must they think it's all about them? Are they narcissistic, perhaps? I hate to speak psychology w/out a degree.
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Is it deep embedded insecurity?
