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Someone I dated for 2-3 months last summer just asked me out to dinner. We have not spoken since it ended. I said yes as I have no other plans, but now I am wondering what this is about.
Things ended over a silly debate, over how to use specific gym equipment. He is over weight and I am not, I go to the gym regularly and he hasn't seen one in years so my reaction to his advice was something like this:
Looking back on things months later, I came to the conclusion that he was very insecure. But kinda with good reason, because frankly I thought he was a bit of a dud sexually which meant I had to do all of the work. I think overweight men in their 40s just don't have the stamina they used to have. Sorry but it's true. So I was pretty lukewarm about the sex while trying to help him eat healthier and get some exercise.
Of course this is just a guess on my part. I have no idea what was really going on in his head.
So anyway, have any of your ever asked someone out you dated a year before? Why? What happened?
Maybe he's gotten healthier, and perhaps that's made him less insecure. If you liked him overall, then perhaps it's worth meeting again, but don't expect anything to be better, and of course it may not turn into anything even if he has improved. And the reasons for the disappointing sex may not have changed even if he's more fit. It's a calculated risk, but one dinner isn't a bid deal, so why not?
Generally, I am wary of reconnecting with an ex, but the decision usually rests on why and how they became an ex - not all exes are created equal.
Well, intellectually speaking, he is defintely one of the best i have dated since my divorce. We get along quite well and can talk for hours about everything/nothing. I have not gotten on so well with a man since my ex husband. I really believe the fat is the problem sexually and in general. It makes him slow, sweaty and insecure.
Taoist, I generally agree with you. In this case I dont consider him an ex though. 2-3 months really isntquite to the relationship stage. But sure, why not have dinner. Hopefully he isnt fatter, and perhaps cares about his health more.
Well, intellectually speaking, he is defintely one of the best i have dated since my divorce. We get along quite well and can talk for hours about everything/nothing. I have not gotten on so well with a man since my ex husband. I really believe the fat is the problem sexually and in general. It makes him slow, sweaty and insecure.
Taoist, I generally agree with you. In this case I dont consider him an ex though. 2-3 months really isntquite to the relationship stage. But sure, why not have dinner. Hopefully he isnt fatter, and perhaps cares about his health more.
Not attacking you, just wondering why you left all of the "good" stuff off of the list in your OP.
Someone I dated for 2-3 months last summer just asked me out to dinner. We have not spoken since it ended. I said yes as I have no other plans, but now I am wondering what this is about.
Things ended over a silly debate, over how to use specific gym equipment. He is over weight and I am not, I go to the gym regularly and he hasn't seen one in years so my reaction to his advice was something like this:
Looking back on things months later, I came to the conclusion that he was very insecure. But kinda with good reason, because frankly I thought he was a bit of a dud sexually which meant I had to do all of the work. I think overweight men in their 40s just don't have the stamina they used to have. Sorry but it's true. So I was pretty lukewarm about the sex while trying to help him eat healthier and get some exercise.
Of course this is just a guess on my part. I have no idea what was really going on in his head.
So anyway, have any of your ever asked someone out you dated a year before? Why? What happened?
It seems to me that some time and distance has made the "debate" you had less and less important.
I think his asking you out took a lot of guts, but he did it because he realizes he is more interested in you than winning some silly argument.
Go, have fun. Sounds like he deserves a second chance
Someone I dated for 2-3 months last summer just asked me out to dinner. We have not spoken since it ended. I said yes as I have no other plans, but now I am wondering what this is about.
Things ended over a silly debate, over how to use specific gym equipment. He is over weight and I am not, I go to the gym regularly and he hasn't seen one in years so my reaction to his advice was something like this:
Looking back on things months later, I came to the conclusion that he was very insecure. But kinda with good reason, because frankly I thought he was a bit of a dud sexually which meant I had to do all of the work. I think overweight men in their 40s just don't have the stamina they used to have. Sorry but it's true. So I was pretty lukewarm about the sex while trying to help him eat healthier and get some exercise.
Of course this is just a guess on my part. I have no idea what was really going on in his head.
So anyway, have any of your ever asked someone out you dated a year before? Why? What happened?
is this the guy who was on the small size/bad in bed from last year?
Thanks for the response, you tend to have advice that makes sense so I appreciate your opinion.
Awww, thanks Glad to have helped.
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Glad to have helped.
