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I am 35, single, no kids and I am really enjoying my life right now, I would say, 90% of my childhood friends are married and have kids.
Last Fri, I drove 3 hours to hook up with a friend in another state, we went to an electronic music concert, and we had a blast, we left the concert at 2 am, we hung out after and I drove back at 4 am, got here at 7 am.
Slept for a couple hours and went to a friends house for lunch and met some awesome people, I was so tired afterwards but this weekend was AMAZING! Essentially, I am doing some of the same "crazy things" I used to when I was 19 and I love it!
If I was married, obviously it would be impossible to do these things, but some of the thoughts that have been crossing my mind lately is that, I love this single lifestyle too much and maybe I don't want it to ever change!
Is it natural to feel this way at 35? I am more than convinced than doing what I want is what makes me happy but I wanted to hear some opinions
My guess is that you are immature, or at least many people will think that. I have a similar mindset to yours but rather than label myself as immature, I consider myself young-at-heart. I think it's the same thing as immaturity, just from a different perspective.
I don't do a lot of "young stuff". I doubt I will go to a Lady GaGa concert, for example. But I went to a car racetrack on Friday night with a friend. And I go out hiking with my camera whenever I have the inclination and the time.
For me, I'll actually have to want to get married before I will. And children are still another mile down the road beyond that. Unlike many, I have dismissed any timetable for such things. Given the rocky road so many people have with marriage, my day for marriage may never come. If not, so be it. I'm not worried about it. Others are worried about it for me, but I'm not concerned. I am enjoying myself and am very conscious of the freedom my lifestyle affords me. I do not take it for granted.
I honestly don't think most married guys are truly happy with their lives. It seems like many get married just because "it's what you're supposed to do" by a certain age and to make others, such as parents/employers/social circle, happy. I can't tell you how many married/engaged friends of mine are borderline miserable whenever they hear about what I did during the weekend or whatever.
And all this stuff about "you can have just as much fun while married" is hogwash. Most married guys usually have very little freedom to go out without their wives on a regular basis.
Yeah, right. That's why most men who divorce remarry, most men who separate from their wives to "see what's out there" come back asking for a second chance, and married men live longer than single men: Because they hate being married so much and it's so awful for them.
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Originally Posted by midatlantic12
Please note that I said "most" married guys, not "all" married guys, so if you let your husband come and go as he pleases, then he must be one of the lucky one's who's not on a leash 24/7. However, you said he's a homebody so he probably doesn't prefer the single life anyway. Most married guys are not allowed to just run around and do whatever like their single counterparts. It just doesn't happen.
On a leash? Allowed?
Oh, please. A man will not do what a man doesn't want to do, and if a man really, truly wants to do something, no one will be able to stop him.
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I still don't understand why people are so focused on the lives of other people.
Not to cherry-pick, but whether it's relationships, sex, careers, money, or even just plain old gossip and trolling (not that Midlantic is trolling, just negative), usually when people focus on what others do or have, it's because they have no lives of their own.
Yeah, right. That's why most men who divorce remarry, most men who separate from their wives to "see what's out there" come back asking for a second chance, and married men live longer than single men: Because they hate being married so much and it's so awful for them.
On a leash? Allowed?
Oh, please. A man will not do what a man doesn't want to do, and if a man really, truly wants to do something, no one will be able to stop him.
Not to cherry-pick, but whether it's relationships, sex, careers, money, or even just plain old gossip and trolling (not that Midlantic is trolling, just negative), usually when people focus on what others do or have, it's because they have no lives of their own.
LOL, yeah, and next month is our 20th "anniversary"
Awwww!!!! Congratulations. And Anniversary does not need to be in quotes.
My husband and I started dating 20yrs ago this past May.
I swear I haven't aged a bit though
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