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I was talking to a friend and she mentioned she was dating a guy, nothing sexual just dating but she needed to get out and meet more men and not put all her eggs in one basket. Our guy friend said that if the guy she's dating catches wind she's dating other men, its going to lesson his desire to pursue anything serious with her.
So I want to get your thoughts on does a woman dating more than 1 guy at a time send the wrong message to men?
Why would it send the "wrong message"? If a man does it, it's just accepted as something that men do........
It sends no more of a message than it would if it were a guy dating multiple women.
I think your guy friend who made the remark is a guy that cannot deal with a woman that DOES date several men at once. There are a lot of guys that cannot deal with that.
I would have no problems with dating a gal that is dating other men. As long as she is respectful when it's our time to date, than I am fine with it.
Our guy friend said that if the guy she's dating catches wind she's dating other men, its going to lesson his desire to pursue anything serious with her. ...does a woman dating more than 1 guy at a time send the wrong message?
Well I can see why it would with some guys who might not be as sure of themselves as they could be. But not in my case. I mean, men have shopped this way for eons. So if shes not in a relationship, what really is the difference? Sure, she might have a few more fish in her pond. But then, a confident, fast swimming fellow, well...
I was talking to a friend and she mentioned she was dating a guy, nothing sexual just dating but she needed to get out and meet more men and not put all her eggs in one basket. Our guy friend said that if the guy she's dating catches wind she's dating other men, its going to lesson his desire to pursue anything serious with her.
So I want to get your thoughts on does a woman dating more than 1 guy at a time send the wrong message to men?
The only "message" any guy who likes a woman should get when other guys want to take her out too is that she's very desirable.
If your guy friend isn't interested in a desirable woman then HE'S the one with the problem, and I certainly wouldn't follow his advice.
Until you are ready to be exclusive with someone you SHOULD date as much as you want.
I think it's true that many guys can't/won't pursue a woman when there are other men in the picture. The real question is whether she should alter her dating strategy to accommodate those men when it is not in her best interest to do so.
I've been out of the game for quite a while, but my take on it would be if she is respectful of our time, like Ron said, and also if we we're moving towards getting more serious, obviously I'd like her to not see other people.
If I wasn't ready to settle down and wanted to date that person and others, I would let them know that I'm not ready to settle down and that I'm dating others so that he knows where he stands and he can date others too.
I think it's true that many guys can't/won't pursue a woman when there are other men in the picture. The real question is whether she should alter her dating strategy to accommodate those men when it is not in her best interest to do so.
My opinion is no, she shouldn't.
Guys like that have issues and are likely not good catches anyway.
She shouldn't make their problem hers, like you said
I've been out of the game for quite a while, but my take on it would be if she is respectful of our time, like Ron said, and also if we we're moving towards getting more serious, obviously I'd like her to not see other people.
Kinda a grey area.... I suppose.
Yeah this was kind of my stance too which is why I started the thread to get others opinion. She doesn't want to tell the guy she's still "looking" so what if the guy has developed pretty strong feelings for her and he's not aware that she's still "shopping" but under the impression that they're moving toward something serious and if that is how he's feeling, I doubt he would be ok with her still looking. I think she really wants to be more with the guy however she's afraid to voice that to him so she wants to date other men until he says he wants a committed relationship.
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