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I have dated two non drinkers.... it's doable, but not preferred. BTW both were in 'recovery'. That is basically what I find at my stage of the game...the non drinkers have had issues in the past. Neither judged me. Both weren't upset if I drank in front of them, however I never went past a glass or two of wine at dinner. But, as a person without substance abuse problems...even at my age...every once and awhile I like to let loose and get faced at my favorite haunt... something you can't do with a non drinker. It is fun to date someone who doesn't mind doing that with you ever now and then. Yeah maybe I sound immature...but hey it's me. LOL
I've tried it twice...neither time it worked out, but not necessarily because of the drinking, but rather because of the 'holier than thou' judgemental attitudes both of them had about drinking. If I wanted to go to a wine festival, one of them would ***** and moan about how stupid it is to have a festival for alcohol and how all the people who went are wasting their money etc etc. I happen to like wine, and enjoy meeting all of our lovely local wine makers.
The other guy...we'd be sitting at a restaurant and someone else in the place would order alcohol and he would go on a mini rant about how it's stupid to pay money to 'destroy ones braincells' etc. I basically couldn't drink in front of him at all because he would flip out.
So yeah...I'm super hesitant dating someone who flat out doesn't drink. I love microbrews and I go wine tasting and so do most of my friends so it would be a compatibility issue. I'd love to meet a guy who wanted to brew our own beer
I don't drink during the week, but i have a few on the weekends. If she doesn't mind me opening a few bottles of Blue Moon or having a rum and coke or 2 on Friday/Saturday then we'll be OK.
I am with a non-drinker. I was also a non-drinker until I was 37. I don't really know if I am a true drinker or not. I may have a mixed drink every two months or more. I think I was having a little more than that before I met him but now hardly ever.
When I did not ever drink I would rather have not been with a drinker. When I was drinking casually, I would not want to be with someone who drank more than casually.
I am fine with being with a non drinker now, and I would be fine being the same...
I think the real question is, would a non-drinker date a drinker?
If you don't drink, being around drunk people is absolutely no fun.
Drunk people frequently make asses of themselves.
But not all people who drink are drunks. I barely remember the last time I was inebriated, it was so long ago, but I for sure will have a glass of wine of an evening, or a beer at a ball game whenever I like.
Being around perpetually wasted people isn't fun for most people, whether they are teetotalers or people who drink responsibly, whether they drink occasionally, or regularly.
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