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I'm sorry but your actions just don't back up your words. If your daughter and education actually did come first and second, you would never have contacted your EX.
It seems you want to do the right thing and wear your "Mom" badge proudly, but building emotions for a past relationship is downright ridiculous. Your actions say the total opposite of your words.
Both your marriages were HIGHLY dysfunctional. You mention many, many times how you've grown and benefited from your daughter. That's all fine and dandy, but she's not a crash course for you on self-improvement. She's a real person and in no time, she'll have real thoughts.
I'm sorry but your actions just don't back up your words. If your daughter and education actually did come first and second, you would never have contacted your EX.
It seems you want to do the right thing and wear your "Mom" badge proudly, but building emotions for a past relationship is downright ridiculous. Your actions say the total opposite of your words.
Both your marriages were HIGHLY dysfunctional. You mention many, many times how you've grown and benefited from your daughter. That's all fine and dandy, but she's not a crash course for you on self-improvement. She's a real person and in no time, she'll have real thoughts.
You need to see a therapist, STAT.
Listen to your friend Angelcake4, she's got good advice.
Also, I'm not really seeing much of a question in your post. It seems to me that you have already formed all the conclusions in that you're going to get back together with EX, but attempt to take take things slow and not mess things up this time (though you certainly don't seem too committed to the taking things slow part). All you seem to want is validation for those decisions, but the fact that you need such validation probably means that deep down you know the whole thing isn't a very good idea.
We could suggest seeing a therapist and maybe casually dating for a bit without the pressure of being with "the one" since you certainly don't appear to be in a place emotionally to make it work even if such a thing were true. However, you're not going to actually do that, are you?
That's what I get for never looking at the dates. Why the hell did you bump this Angelcake?
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